What does self love feel like?

How many times do you hear how important it is to love yourself? Do you know how to love yourself and what it feels like?
In today’s Sunday serenity, I share simple ways to love yourself along with my experience of what it feels like. In honoring Marcus Garvey’s Birthday this week, I also talk about the power of cultural self love.
Today is also the last day to get your discounted Garvey goodies to heal, empower and inspire! There’s also a free webclass with 5 ways to honor Marcus Garvey’s Legacy today! Offers end at midnight tonight London time. Get them here.
 

Happy Birthday Marcus Garvey!

 

Marcus Garvey, the grandfather of pan Africanism celebrates his birthday on the 17th August
and I’m out here flying my virtual RGB flag! Whoop! Whoop!

Marcus Mosiah Garvey Sr. and Sarah Anne Richards gave birth to him in St Ann’s Bay,
Jamaica in 1887, the youngest of 11 children. The principles of Garveyism were all about
empowering black people to do for self and be proud of their blackness.

It’s fascinating to learn that this grandson of a slave would rise up and inspire millions of
black people around the world to rise up and stand in their greatness, all without social
media!  I’m excited to be celebrating his achievements by sharing resources
and offers to honor his legacy for your sobriety and continued empowerment.

OFFERS END SUNDAY 19TH AUGUST MIDNIGHT LONDON TIME.

 

Do Your Children Trigger You?

Do you light up when your child/ren come into the room or do you often feel irritated?

Every time the summer break arrives, I hear alot of parents struggling with spending so much extra time with their child/ren.

Is this you? #Nojudgement

For years I secretly dreaded the summer because I knew I’d be confronted with parenting pain I wasn’t ready to face.

In recovery, I learned that the reason my daughter triggered me so much had nothing to do with her behavior.

Every act of closeness triggered the child in me that was unhealed, unheard and desperate to feel loved.

If we’re wiling, our children’s presence can provide powerful opportunities for us to see where we still need healing.

If we want to be mothers who are present and emotionally available, it’s important that our inner/Higher Parent looks after our inner wounded child.

Just for today, I will be mindful of how I talk to my inner child. When I am kind and loving to myself, this is mirrored in how I love my child/ren.

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What to learn more about mindful motherhood?

I have a compassionate training for wounded daughters with exploration and tools for loving your children when your mother couldn’t love you. Find out more at:

www.mothers.juneallen.net

Are You Emancipated and Independent?

The 1st of August was Emancipation Day and today is the day Jamaica became Independent. Both days mark the so called ‘freedom’ of our ancestors from colonial bondage. As these dates declare our freedom on paper, many of us remain in psychological bondage because we still carry the wounds that were not healed during slavery.
Whilst white supremacy continues to refine itself to maintain power, you also have more opportunities to chose how you respond. Emancipation no longer remains in the hands of those committed to our destruction, but in the way we chose to honor ourselves and our communities.
Are you committed to your pain or your power? Are you willing to do the internal work your ancestors couldn’t?Today, with compassion, patience and courage, I will remember that I have the power to emancipate myself from mental slavery.
Click here for your free mini course, 7 Days of Revolutionary Black Self Love.

Racism is a Spiritual Disease.

Before attending one of my recovery meetings, I found racist abuse all over it’s poster because it was a closed space for folks who identify as people of color.
Keeping this boundary is an important part of keeping the space safe for members to share their truth and minimise racial codependency (code switching) if white people attended.
At first I felt shock. Although I understand intellectually that I’m a black women living under the system of racism, it’s always painful when I experience it so overtly.
It’s especially hard in the recovery space, where people are there to heal, not to have to deal with more abuse. I shared what happened with the group and went straight into sharing my experience, strength and hope in what was a powerful meeting.
It was only when I returned home that I was really able to reflect on what happened and understood the power of racial sobriety.
Before recovery, racist abuse sent me straight into a shame spiral, doing whatever was necessary to stuff down my feelings, minimise the abuse and keep myself small around white people.
Today, I understand that racism is an addiction to power. A spiritual disease where white supremacists have so much self loathing, that they must act it out through oppressing those who trigger any reminder of their whiteness.
In this moment, I will remember that what others think about my skin tone is none of my business. I do not have to absorb their toxic projections, and have the right to set the appropriate boundaries that will keep me safe.
I am a precious child of God, deserving of all things good, abundant and peaceful.
And so it is.
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If you’ve experienced racism in the recovery rooms, you can download my free masterclass at www.sobriety.juneallen.net

Courage

Courage builds character. It’s a revolutionary love that drives our actions through fear. Courage comes from the Latin word cor which means heart, and doing the heartwork is what seeds miracles.

With a legacy where pain is fused with identity, healing is damn, hard work. We need the courage to face ourselves, to ask for help, to stop keeping the secrets that keep us sick, to love and be loved by those who, on the outside, mirror those who brought us the most pain.

Through the years of vicious self hate, I absorbed the pain of others. I blamed myself for the abuse and deprived myself of the right to thrive in love.

With courage as my superpower, I found the strength to break the patterns passed from massa’s cruel plantations. As I built a village with those who healed before me, I was able to love on my people in a way I never thought possible.   

Sometimes, the best version of ourselves can only shine under pressure, and courage, like coal, makes diamonds.

 

Enjoy this piece? It’s taken from a free ebook which you can download at:  7 Steps to Unlock Your Sista Superpowers.

The Power of Solitude

In a world that rewards the hustle,

many feel that solitude is wasted time.

As superwomen, we werk our capes

and ram each ‘should’ and ‘have to,’

in what little, precious time our days will bare.

Solitude honours the truth.

It lifts the veil on how we feel about ourselves when no one’s watching.

She doesn’t lie, or tell us what we want to hear.

She’ll open the window on toxic fantasy

and hold up the mirror which demands empathy.

This superpower serves it straight.

I suffered with chronic doing for years to avoid the backlog of pain I carried beneath it.

I was scared of what I would feel, if I allowed myself to pause.

When I gave myself permission to face the quiet,

it was a relief to let the sacred, stillness, speak.

Solitude is the superpower that calms the storm between our humanity and our spirituality.

In the Sacred Sista Reset Experience, I share a simple tool to nurture this relationship.

As we honor its presence, we’ll move from anorexic isolation to honoring our divinity.

 

Enjoy this piece? It’s taken from a free ebook which you can download at:  7 Steps to Unlock Your Sista Superpowers.

Sunday Serenity: Superpower Sobriety

Racial Sobriety is the superpower that rebuilds our lives from the inside out. Our experience is filtered through the lens of self compassionate, instead of endless bleeding from the wounds of chronic black shame.

Addiction is not just about the drink and drugs, it’s any compulsive behavior that allows us to escape the pain of living in reality. In our desperate powerlessness, we use the people, places and things to numb the suffering inside the truth.

Racism is the compulsive abuse of power and melanin, is the trigger. In recovery, I learned that I’m powerless over those who practice white supremacy, but have the power to choose how I respond.

Have you experienced racism in the rooms? Are you new to this concept and want to know where to begin? After years of experience, strength and hope in my own recovery process. I created the The Racial Sobriety Starter Guide to share the tools and strategies to support you with yours.

‘Racial sobriety is loving yourself so much that, that racism becomes irrelevant.’

 

This reading was taken from the FREE Starter Guide 7 Steps to Unlock Your Sista Superpowers 

 

 

Black Women’s Well-Being Event with Naomi Davidson.

Greetings and thanks for taking the time to hang out with me.

Today, I’m chatting to Naomi Davidson who is a well-being consultant and she’s all about empowering Sista’s. She got in touch as a result of the series I did on wounded daughters  to ask if I would be on the panel for her event ( 23 June 2018) which is specifically around to our UK experience.

We caught up earlier this week to chat about what to expect at the event, and next week we’re going to record a more detailed podcast about the results of her research. You can listen to our chat here.

Hope to see you Saturday!

June

 

 

Sobriety Birthday Gratitude.

Greetings Family!

I’m so excited to share with you that this week is my sobriety birthday! I’m 8 years sober! Yaaasss! It’s not been an easy road, but I am soooo grateful for the growth and to no longer be drowning in unmanageable insanity! #justfortoday

‘The goal of racial sobriety is to love yourself so much, that white supremacy becomes irrelevant.‘

In celebration of my sober awesomeness, I’m sharing the love with some fabulous offers for the next 72 hours! go to www.sobriety.juneallen.net to get your sober on!

Your Sista in Service

June

#racialsobriety