Surrender to Self Love

When our life experience has been dominated by pain, its hard to trust others, our Higher Power, ourselves. This mistrust makes us vulnerable to the insanity of trying to control  everything. Many of us are so used to suffering that it feels hard to open up to wonder of what it means to be human.

In this podcast, I talk about the power of surrender. Surrender is when we allow ourselves to take small loving actions to self nurture even when it feels uncomfortable and we’re afraid of the outcome.

Today, I will let go of my what does not serve me and surrender to the power of self love.

African Health and Wellbeing Day with Nigel Stewart

I thoroughly enjoyed this rich, cultural, playful and passionate conversation with Nigel Stewart. We talked about his early entrepreneur roots, the legacy of healing for our community, politics and negotiating whiteness. I also asked him, is it lovers rock or bashment? fried or boiled dumplin? 🤣🤣 and of course we talked all about how to get the best out of the African Health and Wellbeing Day. One of my fave live streams to date!Enjoy!

The One Thing You Need to Master Your Healing.

Greetings Family,

The Yard of Greatness podcast is back and I’m excited about sharing today’s really simple empowerment seed. Sometimes we can get so caught up in trying to control everything about our healing process which often only creates more stress. In this session, I share one simple reminder that will keep you moving forward even when things get tough. Enjoy!

 

Racial Sobriety Gifts.

Yaasssss, I completed my first virtual conference and although I’m knackered, I learned so much! Thank you to those who participated and contributed, I could never have done this alone. Now you know how much I love my peeps, so you know I have to share some of the goodies from the conference.

If you were not ale to attend and would like a free taste of the experience, you can now download the 5 speaker shares and 1 masterclass with love, from me! Topics include:

Self Acceptance and Food addiction.

Unworthiness and Underearning.

Trauma, codependency and relationship addiction.

Interracial sponsorship.

The power of cultural top and bottom lines.

 

How to start a POC meeting in your primary fellowship.

If these resonate, you can listen to them at www.racialsobrietyrooms.com

5 Reasons Why Your Absent Father Can’t Hear Your Pain.

With UK Fathers Day around the corner, I’ve seen alot posts with anxious wounded daughters feeling sad about their absent fathers. When I talk about being absent, its not just about being physically absent, but also about being emotionally absent. Today, I’m sharing 5 Reasons why your dad can’t hear you.

  1. In order to empathise with your pain, he has to be connected to his own and he may not be ready for that.
  2. He may not be ready to face the consequences of the pain he has caused you. Apologies require the responsibility to take action and show up in the relationship with you and for himself.
  3. He may feel a lot of shame about his behavior which means this chronic sense of unworthiness will keep him triggered and feeling undeserving of having a relationship with his daughter.
  4. If he’s an addict and in active addiction it will be hard for him to see beyond his acting out behaviours.
  5. If he lacks the emotional maturity and is really disconnected from himself, he will continue to use you as a scapegoat to dump his feelings.

Watch the free web class below for tools and support.

7 Racial Sobriety Essentials.

If you are in 12 step recovery or think you might be addicted, these 7 essentials will help you navigate the healing process in the recovery rooms as a person of colour.

  1. You need to educate yourself to understand the psychology of racism. 
  2. Be honest about the impact of racism on your life. You can’t change what you don’t understand about yourself.  
  3. Explore the dysfunctional/ addictive survival patterns you used to avoid your pain. 
  4. Use your tools, cultural top and bottom lines will keep you safe and build racial self esteem.
  5. Keep yourself safe from 13th step predetors, especially if you are new to recovery. 
  6. Build your support network and be mindful of how interracial sponsorship or therapy could block your healing.
  7. For all my seasoned fellows in recovery, start your own POC meeting in your primary fellowship. The mirroring and identification is beyond powerful! 

Watch the free webclass below for a deeper breakdown. Go to www.racialsobrietyrooms.com to get your ticket to the conference.