Having to deal with the impact of racism, sexism and difficult childhoods mean that many of us have suffered from depression at some time in our lives. We feel numb, helpless, and carry despair about any hope for the future. In this week’s live I share some compassionate tools along with my experience of how I dealt with this crippling issue.
Many of us as black women have a painful relationship with anger because we don’t want to be associated with aggression and/or abuse. It’s not easy dealing with the oppressive intersection of race and gender so it makes sense why so many of us don’t know how to manage our intense rage. If used appropriately, anger can be a powerful catalyst for change so in this week’s live, I share 3 ways that being an angry black woman can lead us to healing.
If you were raised in a home where caregivers were physically or emotionally absent, this will have an impact on the dynamics in your relationships. In this week’s book club we explore chapter 5 from, ‘What mama couldn’t tell us about love’ which is all about the impact of abandonment through 5 personality traits. In the live stream, I share my take on these survival behaviours that keep us from the love we deserve.
Without a safe space to process, many of us have buried difficult feelings for years. Therefore, it makes sense that our negative thinking is the emotional leaking out of a difficult past. An important part of the healing process is understanding that it’s not linear. There is no golden destination and sometimes there will be moments when things just feel sh*t as the layers come off. In this week’s live, I share the 5 tools I use when this funk gets in the way.
Often times, the healing process is dominated by unpacking our pain, trauma and the challenges of daily living. However, an important part of the journey is being able to enjoy your growth in the present as well as learning from the past and planning your future.
In this session, I share 3 ways to enjoy the healing process. Use these tools to learn how to bask in the beauty of healing and being your best self right now.
With the racist backlash from England losing the football, there is understandably a lot of intense rage and stress from our community at the treatment of these black players. Mindfulness is an important tool for processing difficult emotions but often the cultural context gets missed in the conversation.
In this session, I share 5 principles for effective mindfulness with the additional exploration of how to include what it means for black people living under the system of racism.
One of the questions that clients often find difficult to answer is what they need. If we were raised in homes that were neglectful and abusive, we shut down because it wasn’t safe to express our feelings or needs. As adults, this pattern can show up as numbness, anger and resentment in people pleasing relationships so in this session, I share a tool that can help you reconnect to your feelings along with 8 important human needs to consider as a black woman.
As a wounded daughter on the healing path, I’ve learned that there are so many things my mother struggled to teach me because of her own pain. In this live stream I share 5 of these struggles along with what you can do to reclaim your black womanhood with gentleness and compassion. For more details on the book club go to www.bookclub.juneallen.net