Peace and blessings Family,
Many of us were raised in homes where love is a bartering system. We only experience an emotional connection when our behavior serves the needs of our parents.
This is mirrored under the system of racism where we’re only ‘accepted’ when we embrace the assimilation of whiteness, staying silent about our oppression and the need to feel safe.
When we’re loved for what we do instead of who we are, it becomes emotionally unsafe to love ourselves inside the insane expectations of others. We become trapped inside the codependent patterns of perfectionistic self neglect.
In recovery, we learn to separate what is ours and what belongs to others. We learn one day at a time, to do the best we can, at our current level of consciousness.
Every tool we use lights the path to a new life of unconditional self love. We can choose to get up and take another baby step, no matter how many times we fall.
Today, I will remember how far I’ve come. As I work the program, I can use my mistakes as a deeper call from my Higher Self to love and accept the full spectrum of my humanity.
Affirmation: I will love and honor every part of myself, unconditionally.
Not long now before the cart closes for the mastermind. I’ve had a lot of sista’s in my inbox so I know you really want this but I also know many of you are still scared to commit. There’s something blocking you from taking the action you need to heal.
The concept of dealing with maternal abuse is challenging, but with tools and a sistahood network, it will change the game around how you see and take care of yourself.
Sometimes, I’m so passionate about serving the community and telling the whole, painful truth about this process that I sometimes forget the empowering things that happen as a result of healing! I’ve also had some great feedback about some things that may be stopping you so I’ve combined the two in an audio, first lets have a look at the blocks, sound familiar?
- My life won’t get better unless my mother changes her behavior?
- She’s also victim and I don’t want to dis-honour her?
- I don’t want no family drama!
- I was always taught not to chat my business!
- No one will understand my situation.
- I already have enough on my plate!
- I ain’t doing 6 weeks of trauma!
- I’m scared of the change.
- Will I be dumped after 6 weeks of getting vulnerable?
- I just can’t afford it!
The audio will address these issues and give you all the empowering reasons to step out in faith and love on your beautiful black self.
sign up at www.mastermind.juneallen.net
*Trigger Warning : This podcast contains adult discussions about sexual abuse.*
This final key to black empowerment is all about service and it’s gonna blow you away!
I’m sharing the platform with Tamar Nwafor, a wife, mother and multiple business owner who fled Jamaica in 1999 from domestic violence and sexual abuse. With a mother unable to protect her, she became involved in drugs and gang violence, but this power house made a commitment to heal and is now serving the community by sharing her experience, strength and expertise to help others.
Woooi…..When sista’s get together, fire bruk out!
You can contact Sista Tamar and her fabulous businesses below.
www.gage.org.co.uk Business development.
www.kingsandqueensunited.com Dating site for melanin rich singles.
For details about the women’s support group,
email firstname.lastname@example.org or call her on 07947839949
Sista Tamar will also be part of Build Your Blacknificence My wounded daughters mastermind to heal from maternal abuse. The registration doors close on Sunday 11th March 2018 at midnight London time. Join us here.
I can’t believe we only have 2 more sessions to go!
In this session we’re talking about respecting the process. Healing is a commitment to loving yourself one day at a time, to realign your wholeness. There’s no quick fix or motivational fluff that is going to absolve you of the responsibility of doing the internal work. If you’re brave enough and open to being vulnerable, the rewards are endless!
links mentioned in this episode www.daughters.juneallen.net
We’re continuing our conversation to find the 7 Keys To Black Empowerment. The 5th key is all about setting boundaries. If you don’t know what does and doesn’t work for you, you make yourself vulnerable to abuse.
In this session I explores the difference between social, external and internal boundaries. I also share how practicing them must be the foundation for our emotional emancipation and personal empowerment!
Healing from racism through personal empowerment and the 12 steps of recovery.
One of the hardest things about the healing process is letting go of control.
Many of us have experienced so much pain, that our lives have become a compulsive mission to control everything around us so that we feel safe.
We’re desperate to feel secure because our wiring has been all chaos, unpredictability and mistrust. Staying in this fear driven space feeds our insanity because we cannot possibly control everything and everyone.
I’m hearing a lot of Sista’s sharing the pain about their abusive mothers and the powerless yearning they feel around the hurtful behavior.
You’re looking for answers, solutions and understanding as to how you can control your mothers abuse and end your pain. The truth is, you can’t.
The only solution is to let go of control and surrender to taking care of yourself. Surrendering doesn’t mean being her doormat, it literally means to stop fighting. To step back, breathe and stop fighting with yourself. To stop resisting and pushing back against the reality of what is going on in your body at this very moment as a result.
Letting go doesn’t mean that feelings of control will disappear, it just means that your willingness to surrender will redirect this energy towards actions that focus on you.
Today, I will let go and surrender to the truth of where I am in this moment.
Till next time,
With Blackalicious love.
Links mentioned in this episode: www.daughters.juneallen.net