I love You and I’m Listening…….

I love you and I’m listening…..

Have you ever had that conversation with the wounded part of yourself?

I’m really excited about today’s podcast because I’m sharing some creative parts of myself that I hope you will find comforting. This episode is a mixture of poetry, affirmation and meditation.

I love you and I’m listening…..

Enjoy.

The One Thing You Need to Master Your Healing.

Greetings Family,

The Yard of Greatness podcast is back and I’m excited about sharing today’s really simple empowerment seed. Sometimes we can get so caught up in trying to control everything about our healing process which often only creates more stress. In this session, I share one simple reminder that will keep you moving forward even when things get tough. Enjoy!

 

Racial Sobriety Gifts.

Yaasssss, I completed my first virtual conference and although I’m knackered, I learned so much! Thank you to those who participated and contributed, I could never have done this alone. Now you know how much I love my peeps, so you know I have to share some of the goodies from the conference.

If you were not ale to attend and would like a free taste of the experience, you can now download the 5 speaker shares and 1 masterclass with love, from me! Topics include:

Self Acceptance and Food addiction.

Unworthiness and Underearning.

Trauma, codependency and relationship addiction.

Interracial sponsorship.

The power of cultural top and bottom lines.

 

How to start a POC meeting in your primary fellowship.

If these resonate, you can listen to them at www.racialsobrietyrooms.com

5 Reasons Why Your Absent Father Can’t Hear Your Pain.

With UK Fathers Day around the corner, I’ve seen alot posts with anxious wounded daughters feeling sad about their absent fathers. When I talk about being absent, its not just about being physically absent, but also about being emotionally absent. Today, I’m sharing 5 Reasons why your dad can’t hear you.

  1. In order to empathise with your pain, he has to be connected to his own and he may not be ready for that.
  2. He may not be ready to face the consequences of the pain he has caused you. Apologies require the responsibility to take action and show up in the relationship with you and for himself.
  3. He may feel a lot of shame about his behavior which means this chronic sense of unworthiness will keep him triggered and feeling undeserving of having a relationship with his daughter.
  4. If he’s an addict and in active addiction it will be hard for him to see beyond his acting out behaviours.
  5. If he lacks the emotional maturity and is really disconnected from himself, he will continue to use you as a scapegoat to dump his feelings.

Watch the free web class below for tools and support.

7 Racial Sobriety Essentials.

If you are in 12 step recovery or think you might be addicted, these 7 essentials will help you navigate the healing process in the recovery rooms as a person of colour.

  1. You need to educate yourself to understand the psychology of racism. 
  2. Be honest about the impact of racism on your life. You can’t change what you don’t understand about yourself.  
  3. Explore the dysfunctional/ addictive survival patterns you used to avoid your pain. 
  4. Use your tools, cultural top and bottom lines will keep you safe and build racial self esteem.
  5. Keep yourself safe from 13th step predetors, especially if you are new to recovery. 
  6. Build your support network and be mindful of how interracial sponsorship or therapy could block your healing.
  7. For all my seasoned fellows in recovery, start your own POC meeting in your primary fellowship. The mirroring and identification is beyond powerful! 

Watch the free webclass below for a deeper breakdown. Go to www.racialsobrietyrooms.com to get your ticket to the conference.

‘How can I embrace black beauty when I’m tired of feeling ugly?’

It’s difficult to love our blackness when we’re constantly being fed that we’re ugly via the system of racism. In this webclass, I break down the truths you need to explore to reclaim your body and celebrate your black femininity.

  1. Where did you learn/internalise that blackness was ugly?
  2. How was racism internalised and acted out as self hate in your family/community?
  3. What are the negative internal scripts you say about yourself and your identity?

Once you have told the truth about these questions in your journal or within a safe space, you will have a deeper understanding of what narrative is yours and what belongs to your dysfunctional environment. Join me and a group of other healing sista’s at the sista circle to share, heal and explore solutions to honour and nurture your blackalicious beauty!

For more details of links in this training go to www.heal.juneallen.net

For the Rise of the Sacred Sista class go to www.rise.juneallen.net

How to deal with a mother that doesn’t support your happiness.

It’s devastating when the women who is supposed to be cheering you on cannot. This can leave wounded daughters with shame and low self worth. In this webclass I share reasons why your mother behaves this way and then I share 5 ways to take care of yourself in this situation.

  1. Self nurturing /parenting.
  2. Be mindful of what you share and boundary the deeper conversations that feel unsafe. 
  3. Think about what you would do if a sista friend behaved the same way. Use your answer to set new boundaries.
  4. Love her from a distance. 
  5. Build your village of mums,  friends and support systems on and offline.

All the relevant links in the class can be found at www.heal.juneallen.net

How to Heal When the Village is Wounded.

*Abuse Trigger Warning*

With so much stuff in the news recently around #muterkelly a sista asks, ‘It takes a village to raise a child, but how can we heal when the village is wounded?’

This is an important topic because many of us get so caught up in the savagery of white supremacy, that it’s hard to look honestly at what’s going on in our community. In today’s video I share 3 ways we can take care of ourselves when dealing with toxicity in the community.

  1. Find a safe, non judgmental space to process your feelings. This could be a therapist, addiction recovery meeting, or a support group. The goal is to find a space that oozes empathy and compassion.
  1. Focus on your own pain and healing first, the village heals collectively as you do the work individually.
  2. Build your own safe village. Many of us grew up in homes that didn’t feel safe so an important part of healing is letting go of trying to change family members who are emotionally unavailable to hear you.
    If you are looking for a safe space start or compliment your journey, go to www.sistacircle.juneallen.net to join the Bell Hooks book club.

Faith : Kwanzaa Day 7

Imani (Faith): To believe with all our hearts in our people, our parents, our teachers, our leaders, and the righteousness and victory of our struggle.

Faith is defined as having complete trust in someone or something. It can also be anchored in spiritual conviction rather than proof.

Under the system of racism, the unheard, recycled pain within our families mean that many of us have lost faith in ourselves and each other.

The restoration of faith requires us to first rebuild the faith within ourselves. To keep our promises to ourselves. As we begin to believe in ourselves, we will attract people, places and things which will restore our faith.

Affirmation: I have faith in the virtues of my ancestors to restore Maat (balance and harmony), and bring peace within myself, across the diaspora and the planet.

Last day to get your Kwanzaa offers at kwanzaa.juneallen.net