In today’s episode, June shares about racial sobriety within the context of recovery. She talks about the history, the blocks to racial sobriety and how to include it in your recovery process. For more details and tools about racial sobriety in recovery go to www.heal.juneallen.net
It’s been a while since I’ve done a podcast but its good to be back! In this session I share about what to do when you’ve been in recovery a while and experience rock bottoms with each new layer of growth. I also share what’s been happening in my recovery around realignment as I level up around the women I’m stepping into in 2020. Enjoy!
With UK Fathers Day around the corner, I’ve seen alot posts with anxious wounded daughters feeling sad about their absent fathers. When I talk about being absent, its not just about being physically absent, but also about being emotionally absent. Today, I’m sharing 5 Reasons why your dad can’t hear you.
- In order to empathise with your pain, he has to be connected to his own and he may not be ready for that.
- He may not be ready to face the consequences of the pain he has caused you. Apologies require the responsibility to take action and show up in the relationship with you and for himself.
- He may feel a lot of shame about his behavior which means this chronic sense of unworthiness will keep him triggered and feeling undeserving of having a relationship with his daughter.
- If he’s an addict and in active addiction it will be hard for him to see beyond his acting out behaviours.
- If he lacks the emotional maturity and is really disconnected from himself, he will continue to use you as a scapegoat to dump his feelings.
Watch the free web class below for tools and support.
If you are in 12 step recovery or think you might be addicted, these 7 essentials will help you navigate the healing process in the recovery rooms as a person of colour.
- You need to educate yourself to understand the psychology of racism.
- Be honest about the impact of racism on your life. You can’t change what you don’t understand about yourself.
- Explore the dysfunctional/ addictive survival patterns you used to avoid your pain.
- Use your tools, cultural top and bottom lines will keep you safe and build racial self esteem.
- Keep yourself safe from 13th step predetors, especially if you are new to recovery.
- Build your support network and be mindful of how interracial sponsorship or therapy could block your healing.
- For all my seasoned fellows in recovery, start your own POC meeting in your primary fellowship. The mirroring and identification is beyond powerful!
Watch the free webclass below for a deeper breakdown. Go to www.racialsobrietyrooms.com to get your ticket to the conference.
With a history and culture of unheard pain, it makes sense that many of us feel a deep sense of powerlessness. We feel powerless over white supremacy, powerless over the ‘loved’ ones who hurt us, and powerless over the unmanageable impact it’s had on our lives.
The result of unheard powerlessness and oppression is learned helplessness. When we’re taught that we have no power, we stay trapped in a child like state where being seen or heard is emotionally unsafe. I’ve often described myself as this adult child and the anger I swallowed around my powerlessness became depression. My oppression became depression. The anger without the fire……….. Want more?
The 13 November will be my 50th Birthday and I’m sharing a collection of 50 lessons, revelations and rituals (FREEDOM 50 Series) that have nurtured my serenity and what I hope, will inspire you to stay on the path of healing. This session is one of my 10 life lessons. Click here to here the full session in audio, You are not powerless!
Till Next time,
Your sista in service.
Racial Sobriety is the superpower that rebuilds our lives from the inside out. Our experience is filtered through the lens of self compassionate, instead of endless bleeding from the wounds of chronic black shame.
Addiction is not just about the drink and drugs, it’s any compulsive behavior that allows us to escape the pain of living in reality. In our desperate powerlessness, we use the people, places and things to numb the suffering inside the truth.
Racism is the compulsive abuse of power and melanin, is the trigger. In recovery, I learned that I’m powerless over those who practice white supremacy, but have the power to choose how I respond.
Have you experienced racism in the rooms? Are you new to this concept and want to know where to begin? After years of experience, strength and hope in my own recovery process. I created the The Racial Sobriety Starter Guide to share the tools and strategies to support you with yours.
‘Racial sobriety is loving yourself so much that, that racism becomes irrelevant.’
I’m so excited to share with you that this week is my sobriety birthday! I’m 8 years sober! Yaaasss! It’s not been an easy road, but I am soooo grateful for the growth and to no longer be drowning in unmanageable insanity! #justfortoday
‘The goal of racial sobriety is to love yourself so much, that white supremacy becomes irrelevant.‘
In celebration of my sober awesomeness, I’m sharing the love with some fabulous offers for the next 72 hours! go to www.sobriety.juneallen.net to get your sober on!
Your Sista in Service
Peace and blessings Family,
Many of us were raised in homes where love is a bartering system. We only experience an emotional connection when our behavior serves the needs of our parents.
This is mirrored under the system of racism where we’re only ‘accepted’ when we embrace the assimilation of whiteness, staying silent about our oppression and the need to feel safe.
When we’re loved for what we do instead of who we are, it becomes emotionally unsafe to love ourselves inside the insane expectations of others. We become trapped inside the codependent patterns of perfectionistic self neglect.
In recovery, we learn to separate what is ours and what belongs to others. We learn one day at a time, to do the best we can, at our current level of consciousness.
Every tool we use lights the path to a new life of unconditional self love. We can choose to get up and take another baby step, no matter how many times we fall.
Today, I will remember how far I’ve come. As I work the program, I can use my mistakes as a deeper call from my Higher Self to love and accept the full spectrum of my humanity.
Affirmation: I will love and honor every part of myself, unconditionally.