You Are Not Powerless!

With a history and culture of unheard pain, it makes sense that many of us feel a deep sense of powerlessness. We feel powerless over white supremacy, powerless over the ‘loved’ ones who hurt us, and powerless over the unmanageable impact it’s had on our lives.

The result of unheard powerlessness and oppression is learned helplessness. When we’re taught that we have no power, we stay trapped in a child like state where being seen or heard is emotionally unsafe. I’ve often described myself as this adult child and the anger I swallowed around my powerlessness became depression. My oppression became depression. The anger without the fire……….. Want more?

The 13 November will be my 50th Birthday and I’m sharing a collection of 50 lessons, revelations and rituals (FREEDOM 50 Series) that have nurtured my serenity and what I hope, will inspire you to stay on the path of healing. This session is one of my 10 life lessons. Click here to here the full session in audio, You are not powerless! 

Click here to find out more about the FREEDOM 50 Series.

Till Next time,

Your sista in service.

June

Addiction is a Family Disease

I’ve been a little quiet over the last few days, because it was my late brothers birthday on the 7th of September. After many years of substance abuse, he died aged 46.
Many of us don’t understand addiction, and are quick to judge those who act out with drink, drugs, food, sex or any other behaviours that sabotage our ability to show up and shine in our greatness.
For black folks, addiction is a cultural disease rooted in a desperate need to escape the vulnerability of our blackness. We carry the scars of slavery and todays oppression which vilifies our melanin magic.
Without a revolutionary program of gentleness, healing and compassion, our people will continue to recycle their pain by hurting ourselves and each other.
The last conversation I had with my brother was painful because he was high and incoherent.
I felt powerless over his suffering.
I was scared of getting THAT phone call. That my sobriety could not save him.
In recovery, I learned to let go of the guilt of not being able to end his misery. Today, I honor him by sharing the power of racial sobriety with those who are willing and able to do the work.
Healing begins when we accept that we cannot control how others choose to manage their pain. We let go of trying to save those we love, and focus on healing ourselves.
Today, I will not abandon myself in the compulsive need to rescue others. My recovery and healing must always come first.
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 In this previous podcast, I  talk more openly about my brothers addiction and how his death continues to keep me sober and serving the community.

To get started on your journey to racial sobriety, go to www.sobriety.juneallen.net
 for your free course with 7 powerful masterclasses.

Racism is a Spiritual Disease.

Before attending one of my recovery meetings, I found racist abuse all over it’s poster because it was a closed space for folks who identify as people of color.
Keeping this boundary is an important part of keeping the space safe for members to share their truth and minimise racial codependency (code switching) if white people attended.
At first I felt shock. Although I understand intellectually that I’m a black women living under the system of racism, it’s always painful when I experience it so overtly.
It’s especially hard in the recovery space, where people are there to heal, not to have to deal with more abuse. I shared what happened with the group and went straight into sharing my experience, strength and hope in what was a powerful meeting.
It was only when I returned home that I was really able to reflect on what happened and understood the power of racial sobriety.
Before recovery, racist abuse sent me straight into a shame spiral, doing whatever was necessary to stuff down my feelings, minimise the abuse and keep myself small around white people.
Today, I understand that racism is an addiction to power. A spiritual disease where white supremacists have so much self loathing, that they must act it out through oppressing those who trigger any reminder of their whiteness.
In this moment, I will remember that what others think about my skin tone is none of my business. I do not have to absorb their toxic projections, and have the right to set the appropriate boundaries that will keep me safe.
I am a precious child of God, deserving of all things good, abundant and peaceful.
And so it is.
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If you’ve experienced racism in the recovery rooms, you can download my free masterclass at www.sobriety.juneallen.net

Sunday Serenity: Superpower Sobriety

Racial Sobriety is the superpower that rebuilds our lives from the inside out. Our experience is filtered through the lens of self compassionate, instead of endless bleeding from the wounds of chronic black shame.

Addiction is not just about the drink and drugs, it’s any compulsive behavior that allows us to escape the pain of living in reality. In our desperate powerlessness, we use the people, places and things to numb the suffering inside the truth.

Racism is the compulsive abuse of power and melanin, is the trigger. In recovery, I learned that I’m powerless over those who practice white supremacy, but have the power to choose how I respond.

Have you experienced racism in the rooms? Are you new to this concept and want to know where to begin? After years of experience, strength and hope in my own recovery process. I created the The Racial Sobriety Starter Guide to share the tools and strategies to support you with yours.

‘Racial sobriety is loving yourself so much that, that racism becomes irrelevant.’

 

This reading was taken from the FREE Starter Guide 7 Steps to Unlock Your Sista Superpowers 

 

 

Sobriety Birthday Gratitude.

Greetings Family!

I’m so excited to share with you that this week is my sobriety birthday! I’m 8 years sober! Yaaasss! It’s not been an easy road, but I am soooo grateful for the growth and to no longer be drowning in unmanageable insanity! #justfortoday

‘The goal of racial sobriety is to love yourself so much, that white supremacy becomes irrelevant.‘

In celebration of my sober awesomeness, I’m sharing the love with some fabulous offers for the next 72 hours! go to www.sobriety.juneallen.net to get your sober on!

Your Sista in Service

June

#racialsobriety

Unconditional Self Love.

Peace and blessings Family,

Many of us were raised in homes where love is a bartering system. We only experience an emotional connection when our behavior serves the needs of our parents.

This is mirrored under the system of racism where we’re only ‘accepted’ when we embrace the assimilation of whiteness, staying silent about our oppression and the need to feel safe.

When we’re loved for what we do instead of who we are, it becomes emotionally unsafe to love ourselves inside the insane expectations of others. We become trapped inside the codependent patterns of perfectionistic self neglect.

In recovery, we learn to separate what is ours and what belongs to others. We learn one day at a time, to do the best we can, at our current level of consciousness.

Every tool we use lights the path to a new life of unconditional self love. We can choose to get up and take another baby step, no matter how many times we fall.

Today, I will remember how far I’ve come. As I work the program, I can use my mistakes as a deeper call from my Higher Self to love and accept the full spectrum of my humanity.

Affirmation: I will love and honor every part of myself, unconditionally.

Recovery Step 2 Reflections

Step 2: Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

Many of us have lost hope under the oppressive grind of white supremacy. You don’t trust anyone who looks like you because of the recycled family trauma.

You also don’t trust white people because they consciously and unconsciously act out, refine and maintain the system of racism. So we survive this mess through compulsive self-reliance. ‘I can be badass all by myself!’

Truth is, we’re wired for connection and all this ‘independent’ talk is really code for, ‘I’m scared to trust.’  Trust calls for a willingness to be vulnerable and being vulnerable triggers the pain of our early betrayals.

In recovery step 2, this is the beginning of learning to trust again. We start to give up control and become willing to build a new relationship with our Higher Self. A process of spiritual and racial intimacy that evolves over time.

This is done by breaking down the step words ‘Came to believe.’

First we, ‘came.’ We show up at meetings, call our sponsor, outreach with our brotha’s and sista’s and do the race related step work.

Second we, ‘came to.’ Our melanin magic awakens as we begin to experience the power of racial sobriety.

Third we, ‘came to believe.’ We begin to restore Maat (balance and harmony) as the empowerment process takes root inside how we show up in the world.

Today, I will remember that I am spiritual being having a human experience.

Affirmation: I am willing to trust the greater power within myself.

Ashe!

Recovery Step 1 Reflections.

It’s one thing to know that we live under the system of racism, and another to consciously feel it’s devastating impact on our lives.

White fear of genetic annihilation has made us prisoners of war inside our black skin. The longer we swallow our oppression, the more unmanageable our lives have become.

When we affirm the power to change our lives through the steps, we challenge the core parts of ourselves still bleeding from internalised self hate.

In Step 1, we admit that we are powerless over those who practice white supremacy. We surrender to the truth and let go of our compulsive need to escape the vulnerability of our blackness.

As we use the tools and peel back the layers of confusion, we experience a new hope and begin to find the courage to show up in our regal divinity.

In this moment, I will honor that I am alive. I can find the way home to my blacknificance, by asking for help from those who have walked the path before me.

Affirmation: I choose to live in the light. I am worthy of healing.

 

Till next time,

With Blackalicious love.

June x

YOG23: Addiction, Pain and Recovery Solutions.

Greetings Fam,

Yesterday, was the anniversary of my brothers death.

After many years of using drugs and alcohol, his body gave up on 6 November 2012.

He was 46 years old.

In today’s podcast, I share how the impact of his death keeps me committed to SLAYING in recovery and serving my community.

How do you define addiction? Do you think it’s all about drink and drugs?

In this episode, I also teach how black pain under the system of racism, manifests as different types of addictive and compulsive behavior.

Black self respect means being truthful about your pain.

Black self love is about asking for help.

If you’re struggling with addiction and want to learn more about 12 step recovery,

you can listen to the ‘Recovery for Beginners’ episode here. 

Be open. Be willing. Be the change.

Till next time

With Blackalicious love

June

 

In Loving Memory

David Barrington Allen

Sunrise 7.9.1966

Sunset 6.11.2012

 

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Links, books and authors mentioned in this episode:

Recovery Podcast.

12 Step Recovery for Beginners

 

7 Days of Revolutionary Black self Love.

http://www.7days.juneallen.net

YOG21: Are You Addicted To Misery?

Greetings Family,

Has pain become your only friend? Is there a deeper pay off for holding onto your pain and drama? How does this enable own oppression as a community?

In  today’s episode, I explore how pain and childhood chaos can create a ‘comfortable,’ addictive cycle of more pain and chaos. I also share about my own compulsive fear of being happy during my entrepreneurial journey.

Enjoy

With blackalicious love,

June x

 

Links mentioned in this episode.

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