Racial Sobriety is the superpower that rebuilds our lives from the inside out. Our experience is filtered through the lens of self compassionate, instead of endless bleeding from the wounds of chronic black shame.
Addiction is not just about the drink and drugs, it’s any compulsive behavior that allows us to escape the pain of living in reality. In our desperate powerlessness, we use the people, places and things to numb the suffering inside the truth.
Racism is the compulsive abuse of power and melanin, is the trigger. In recovery, I learned that I’m powerless over those who practice white supremacy, but have the power to choose how I respond.
Have you experienced racism in the rooms? Are you new to this concept and want to know where to begin? After years of experience, strength and hope in my own recovery process. I created the The Racial Sobriety Starter Guide to share the tools and strategies to support you with yours.
‘Racial sobriety is loving yourself so much that, that racism becomes irrelevant.’
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‘The goal of racial sobriety is to love yourself so much, that white supremacy becomes irrelevant.‘
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Peace and blessings Family,
Many of us were raised in homes where love is a bartering system. We only experience an emotional connection when our behavior serves the needs of our parents.
This is mirrored under the system of racism where we’re only ‘accepted’ when we embrace the assimilation of whiteness, staying silent about our oppression and the need to feel safe.
When we’re loved for what we do instead of who we are, it becomes emotionally unsafe to love ourselves inside the insane expectations of others. We become trapped inside the codependent patterns of perfectionistic self neglect.
In recovery, we learn to separate what is ours and what belongs to others. We learn one day at a time, to do the best we can, at our current level of consciousness.
Every tool we use lights the path to a new life of unconditional self love. We can choose to get up and take another baby step, no matter how many times we fall.
Today, I will remember how far I’ve come. As I work the program, I can use my mistakes as a deeper call from my Higher Self to love and accept the full spectrum of my humanity.
Affirmation: I will love and honor every part of myself, unconditionally.
Step 2: Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
Many of us have lost hope under the oppressive grind of white supremacy. You don’t trust anyone who looks like you because of the recycled family trauma.
You also don’t trust white people because they consciously and unconsciously act out, refine and maintain the system of racism. So we survive this mess through compulsive self-reliance. ‘I can be badass all by myself!’
Truth is, we’re wired for connection and all this ‘independent’ talk is really code for, ‘I’m scared to trust.’ Trust calls for a willingness to be vulnerable and being vulnerable triggers the pain of our early betrayals.
In recovery step 2, this is the beginning of learning to trust again. We start to give up control and become willing to build a new relationship with our Higher Self. A process of spiritual and racial intimacy that evolves over time.
This is done by breaking down the step words ‘Came to believe.’
First we, ‘came.’ We show up at meetings, call our sponsor, outreach with our brotha’s and sista’s and do the race related step work.
Second we, ‘came to.’ Our melanin magic awakens as we begin to experience the power of racial sobriety.
Third we, ‘came to believe.’ We begin to restore Maat (balance and harmony) as the empowerment process takes root inside how we show up in the world.
Today, I will remember that I am spiritual being having a human experience.
Affirmation: I am willing to trust the greater power within myself.
It’s one thing to know that we live under the system of racism, and another to consciously feel it’s devastating impact on our lives.
White fear of genetic annihilation has made us prisoners of war inside our black skin. The longer we swallow our oppression, the more unmanageable our lives have become.
When we affirm the power to change our lives through the steps, we challenge the core parts of ourselves still bleeding from internalised self hate.
In Step 1, we admit that we are powerless over those who practice white supremacy. We surrender to the truth and let go of our compulsive need to escape the vulnerability of our blackness.
As we use the tools and peel back the layers of confusion, we experience a new hope and begin to find the courage to show up in our regal divinity.
In this moment, I will honor that I am alive. I can find the way home to my blacknificance, by asking for help from those who have walked the path before me.
Affirmation: I choose to live in the light. I am worthy of healing.
Till next time,
With Blackalicious love.
Yesterday, was the anniversary of my brothers death.
After many years of using drugs and alcohol, his body gave up on 6 November 2012.
He was 46 years old.
In today’s podcast, I share how the impact of his death keeps me committed to SLAYING in recovery and serving my community.
How do you define addiction? Do you think it’s all about drink and drugs?
In this episode, I also teach how black pain under the system of racism, manifests as different types of addictive and compulsive behavior.
Black self respect means being truthful about your pain.
Black self love is about asking for help.
If you’re struggling with addiction and want to learn more about 12 step recovery,
Be open. Be willing. Be the change.
Till next time
With Blackalicious love
In Loving Memory
David Barrington Allen
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Links, books and authors mentioned in this episode:
7 Days of Revolutionary Black self Love.
Has pain become your only friend? Is there a deeper pay off for holding onto your pain and drama? How does this enable own oppression as a community?
In today’s episode, I explore how pain and childhood chaos can create a ‘comfortable,’ addictive cycle of more pain and chaos. I also share about my own compulsive fear of being happy during my entrepreneurial journey.
With blackalicious love,
Links mentioned in this episode.
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Sending love and nuff blessings from the Yard!
In today’s show, I chat to my recovery fellows working the recovery steps with a run down on racism and step 4.
I also share how to write an inventory on race.
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