Unconditional Self Love.

Peace and blessings Family,

Many of us were raised in homes where love is a bartering system. We only experience an emotional connection when our behavior serves the needs of our parents.

This is mirrored under the system of racism where we’re only ‘accepted’ when we embrace the assimilation of whiteness, staying silent about our oppression and the need to feel safe.

When we’re loved for what we do instead of who we are, it becomes emotionally unsafe to love ourselves inside the insane expectations of others. We become trapped inside the codependent patterns of perfectionistic self neglect.

In recovery, we learn to separate what is ours and what belongs to others. We learn one day at a time, to do the best we can, at our current level of consciousness.

Every tool we use lights the path to a new life of unconditional self love. We can choose to get up and take another baby step, no matter how many times we fall.

Today, I will remember how far I’ve come. As I work the program, I can use my mistakes as a deeper call from my Higher Self to love and accept the full spectrum of my humanity.

Affirmation: I will love and honor every part of myself, unconditionally.

Recovery Step 2 Reflections

Step 2: Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

Many of us have lost hope under the oppressive grind of white supremacy. You don’t trust anyone who looks like you because of the recycled family trauma.

You also don’t trust white people because they consciously and unconsciously act out, refine and maintain the system of racism. So we survive this mess through compulsive self-reliance. ‘I can be badass all by myself!’

Truth is, we’re wired for connection and all this ‘independent’ talk is really code for, ‘I’m scared to trust.’  Trust calls for a willingness to be vulnerable and being vulnerable triggers the pain of our early betrayals.

In recovery step 2, this is the beginning of learning to trust again. We start to give up control and become willing to build a new relationship with our Higher Self. A process of spiritual and racial intimacy that evolves over time.

This is done by breaking down the step words ‘Came to believe.’

First we, ‘came.’ We show up at meetings, call our sponsor, outreach with our brotha’s and sista’s and do the race related step work.

Second we, ‘came to.’ Our melanin magic awakens as we begin to experience the power of racial sobriety.

Third we, ‘came to believe.’ We begin to restore Maat (balance and harmony) as the empowerment process takes root inside how we show up in the world.

Today, I will remember that I am spiritual being having a human experience.

Affirmation: I am willing to trust the greater power within myself.

Ashe!

Recovery Step 1 Reflections.

It’s one thing to know that we live under the system of racism, and another to consciously feel it’s devastating impact on our lives.

White fear of genetic annihilation has made us prisoners of war inside our black skin. The longer we swallow our oppression, the more unmanageable our lives have become.

When we affirm the power to change our lives through the steps, we challenge the core parts of ourselves still bleeding from internalised self hate.

In Step 1, we admit that we are powerless over those who practice white supremacy. We surrender to the truth and let go of our compulsive need to escape the vulnerability of our blackness.

As we use the tools and peel back the layers of confusion, we experience a new hope and begin to find the courage to show up in our regal divinity.

In this moment, I will honor that I am alive. I can find the way home to my blacknificance, by asking for help from those who have walked the path before me.

Affirmation: I choose to live in the light. I am worthy of healing.

 

Till next time,

With Blackalicious love.

June x

YOG23: Addiction, Pain and Recovery Solutions.

Greetings Fam,

Yesterday, was the anniversary of my brothers death.

After many years of using drugs and alcohol, his body gave up on 6 November 2012.

He was 46 years old.

In today’s podcast, I share how the impact of his death keeps me committed to SLAYING in recovery and serving my community.

How do you define addiction? Do you think it’s all about drink and drugs?

In this episode, I also teach how black pain under the system of racism, manifests as different types of addictive and compulsive behavior.

Black self respect means being truthful about your pain.

Black self love is about asking for help.

If you’re struggling with addiction and want to learn more about 12 step recovery,

you can listen to the ‘Recovery for Beginners’ episode here. 

Be open. Be willing. Be the change.

Till next time

With Blackalicious love

June

 

In Loving Memory

David Barrington Allen

Sunrise 7.9.1966

Sunset 6.11.2012

 

Any Questions? Need to share?

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Links, books and authors mentioned in this episode:

Recovery Podcast.

12 Step Recovery for Beginners

 

7 Days of Revolutionary Black self Love.

http://www.7days.juneallen.net

YOG21: Are You Addicted To Misery?

Greetings Family,

Has pain become your only friend? Is there a deeper pay off for holding onto your pain and drama? How does this enable own oppression as a community?

In  today’s episode, I explore how pain and childhood chaos can create a ‘comfortable,’ addictive cycle of more pain and chaos. I also share about my own compulsive fear of being happy during my entrepreneurial journey.

Enjoy

With blackalicious love,

June x

 

Links mentioned in this episode.

Click here to download and build your black self love list.

 

Click below  for your free mini empowerment course,

7 Days of Revolutionary Black Self Love

 

TBS18: How To Write a Recovery Step 4 Race Inventory.

Greetings Family,

Sending love and nuff blessings from the Yard!

In today’s show, I chat to my recovery fellows working the recovery steps with a run down on racism and step 4.

I also share how to write an inventory on race.

Enjoy x

Don’t miss another episode!

If you have any feedback, comments or questions ask me here.

If you would like to work with me you can find out more here.

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TBS15: Recovery Step 3 – Are White People Your Higher Power?

 

Greetings family,

In this show, I explore how the image of white Jesus and the religion of white supremacy (Christianity) maintains a spiritually abusive power dynamic where white people have become our Higher Power.

In 12 step recovery, step 3 is when we, ‘Made the decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understand it.’ As religion is one of the key areas of oppressive people activity under the system of white supremacy, I also share my experience, hope and tools for dealing with this abusive religious enmeshment. Details for this show include:

  • The concept of God.
  • The role of white supremacy in religion.
  • Slavery, Christianity and the black church.
  • White Jesus and spiritual abuse.
  • Recovery Step 3.
  • When white people were my Higher Power.
  • The dismantling and reconstruction process.
  • Setting spiritual boundaries.

Enjoy x

Don’t miss the next episode!

References in this episode:

Maat

Amun Ra

 

Further Reading.

Black People in the Bible – Randolph Jackson

The Color of Christ: The Son of God and the Saga of Race in America – Paul Harvey.

If you have any feedback, comments or questions ask me here.

If you would like to work with me you can find out more here.

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TBS13: Codependency and Detaching With Love.

 

In this episode, I share on the subject of codependency, which is the destructive form of self abandonment we adopt in response to living under the system of racism (white supremacy). Details of the show are as follows:

What is racial codependency within the system of white supremacy?

What is codependency in relationships?

The codependency 12 step recovery fellowship.

The characteristics and behavior patterns of codependency.

-Denial

-Low self esteem

-Complience

-Control

-Avoidance

The power of detachment with love.

Enjoy x

Don’t miss an episode!

 

 

If you have any feedback, comments or questions ask me here.

If you would like to work with me you can find out more here.

 

Links, books and authors mentioned in this episode:

Last weeks episode on the 9 narcissistic traits of white supremacy.
Is racism a mental illness?

 

The codependency 12 step recovery fellowship.

www.coda.org

The CODA Fellowship Big Book

 

Further suggested reading on codependency.


You can find lots of literature about racial wellness, addiction, and the 12 step recovery process in the link below in the recovery/addiction category:

www.yardofgreatnessstore.com

#racialsobriety #theblacksteps #recovery #sobriety #racism #whitesupremacy #blackempowerment #blackgirlmagic #racialintimacy #thetwelvesteps

TBS11: Recovery Step 2: Being Restored To Sanity By A Loving Higher Parent.

 

Greetings Family,

I hope the day finds you well. This week, I am sharing my experience hope and tools in recovery step 2. Details include:

  • Introducing recovery step 3.
  • The challenge of trust.
  • Waking up.
  • How and where does your Higher Power shows up?
  • Letting go of a judgmental God.
  • Racial insanity.
  • Are you playing God in other peoples lives?
  • What is being restored to sanity.
  • Open mindedness and clarity.
  • The what, the why and the how of moving forward?

Enjoy x

 

If you have any feedback, comments or questions ask me here.

If you would like to work with me you can find out more here.

Links, books and authors mentioned in this episode:

Recovery Step 1

You can find lots of literature about racial wellness, addiction, and the 12 step recovery process in the link below in the recovery/addiction category:

http://www.yardofgreatnessstore.com

TBS09 How To Start A People of Colour 12 Step Meeting Within Your Primary Fellowship.

start a meeting
Whas up fam,
I hope you’re having a peaceful, constructive day. I am so excited about today’s show because I am going to teach you how to set up your own People of Colour meeting within your respective fellowship. If you are already working a 12 step recovery program, this is an empowering opportunity to deepen your understanding of racial sobriety and connect more authentically with yourself and your community. Topics discussed in this episode are as follows:
Basic meeting structure.
White fragility and separation.
How the new script works.
Introduction.
People Of Colour Preamble.
Closed group boundaries.
Race step work sharing.
Sharing space, boundaries and racial slurs.
Top lines and gratitude.
 Enjoy x

 

Links, books and authors mentioned in this episode:

You can find lots of literature about racial wellness, addiction, and the 12 step recovery process in the link below in the recovery/addiction category:

http://www.yardofgreatnessstore.com

If you have any feedback, comments or questions ask me here.

If you would like to work with me you can find out more here.

#racialsobriety #theblacksteps #recovery #sobriety #racism #whitesupremacy #blackempowerment #blackgirlmagic  #racialintimacy  #thetwelvesteps