YOG31: The 7 Keys to Black Empowerment: #4 Understand Your Wound.

Hey Fam,

The conversation continues about the 7 Keys To Black Empowerment. The 4th key is to understand your wound. How do you manage your pain? Are you avoiding the responsibility of your own healing by blaming others or obsessing about the white man. This session is all about the importance of staying in your own lane and being laser focused on what is in our control. I also share why the black woman’s healing is vital to the future of our legacy.

Be empowered!

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YOG29: The 7 Keys to Black Empowerment: #2 Use Your Tools.

Many of us are not taught emotional literacy in our families because survival is the default way of being. Feelings are not allowed so you deny, suppress, numb out and react whenever you feel unsafe.

Emotional sobriety is our ability to feel and cope with our emotions. This helps us to respond instead of reacting to our environment. When we’re sober we can make better choices for ourselves, our family and community.

In order to achieve emotional sobriety, you need to use the appropriate tools to honor your feelings and shift the energy to create change instead of feeling enslaved inside their intensity.

In today’s podcast I share the 2nd Key to Black Empowerment, Use The Tools. I share more about the power of emotional sobriety and my 3 step system with tools to empower yourself psychologically.

Links mentioned in this episode.

The 7 Keys to Black Empowerment: #1 Truth

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Are You Scared of Becoming Your Mother?

‘A wounded daughters acceptance of her mother’s inability to love requires willingness and courage. Willingness to accept the truth about her mothers limitations and courage to change the way she responds without self blame.’

This quote is an exert from a series of empowerment training’s I’m writing to honor the wounded daughters of abusive black mothers.

We cannot have honest conversations about wanting to end white supremacy, until we’re ready to raise our hands and do the healing work required to free ourselves internally.

I still have moments of pain and grief around my mother’s behavior, but I stay committed to the healing work because greatness is my birthright.

I also want a loving, mother experience for my little Plaintain, Zuri. 🙂

The more I learn and speak, the more I understand  the suffering in the community.

I want you to know that you are not alone.

There is hope.

When you empower a women you empower a nation.

You spoke, I listened.

Today, I’m sharing an opportunity for wounded daughters to have a compassionate, non-judgmental space to explore this topic and begin to find peace.  Details are below.

 

London Grenfell Fire and Counter Racist Parenting with C.O.W.S. Radio & Gus T Renagade

Greetings Family,

I have x2 radio shows to share with you today from my appearances on the C.O.W.S. radios show with Gus T Renegade. In this first show, we support a women who’s child is experiencing racism from his classmate. The panel share constructive tools and support with some powerful suggestions for counter racist parenting. Click the pic to get the details.

 

Counter Racist Parenting

 

In the second show, we talk about the horrific fire at Grenfell Tower in London. Listen by clicking the pic below.

Grenfall Tower Session.

 

My First Guest Blog Post

Greeting family,

This is a Yard of Greatness milestone! I am so humbled to have my first guest blog post published on Dr Stacey Patton’s website.  A feisty US journalist, who is an unapologetic advocate for black children who have experienced abuse from their parents.  There is also a podcast to accompany the post which has more details. Its a tough read, but a necessary one for our healing.

Be empowered!

3 Reasons Why Black Folks Still Justify Whupping Our Kids

TBS16: Compassionate Parenting And The 3 Truths Behind Why We Still Whup Our Children.

 

In today’s show, I share 3 reasons why we still justify beating our children. I also reveal how compassionate parenting can help us stop. Details of the show includes:

Why I was scared to become a parent.
How and why we disconnect from our bodies.
Why we can’t admit that our parents were abusive.
Whupping black children is white supremacy on auto pilot.
Recovery, therapy and compassionate parenting.
 Enjoy x

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Links, books and authors mentioned in this episode:

Dr Stacey Patton’s Website

Spare the kids.

Previous podcasts.

Racism and recovery for beginners

Attachment and the family.

Codependency and detaching with love. 

You can find lots of literature about racial wellness, addiction, and the 12 step recovery process in the link below in the recovery/addiction category:

http://www.yardofgreatnessstore.com

#racialsobriety #theblacksteps #recovery #sobriety #racism #whitesupremacy #blackempowerment #blackgirlmagic  #racialintimacy  #thetwelvesteps

 

TBS13: Codependency and Detaching With Love.

 

In this episode, I share on the subject of codependency, which is the destructive form of self abandonment we adopt in response to living under the system of racism (white supremacy). Details of the show are as follows:

What is racial codependency within the system of white supremacy?

What is codependency in relationships?

The codependency 12 step recovery fellowship.

The characteristics and behavior patterns of codependency.

-Denial

-Low self esteem

-Complience

-Control

-Avoidance

The power of detachment with love.

Enjoy x

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Links, books and authors mentioned in this episode:

Last weeks episode on the 9 narcissistic traits of white supremacy.
Is racism a mental illness?

 

The codependency 12 step recovery fellowship.

www.coda.org

The CODA Fellowship Big Book

 

Further suggested reading on codependency.


You can find lots of literature about racial wellness, addiction, and the 12 step recovery process in the link below in the recovery/addiction category:

www.yardofgreatnessstore.com

#racialsobriety #theblacksteps #recovery #sobriety #racism #whitesupremacy #blackempowerment #blackgirlmagic #racialintimacy #thetwelvesteps

TBS06:Understanding Racial Pain Pt 2: Attachment And The Family

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This show is quite a deep one so make yourself a herb tea, take a deep breath and have a seat.

This episode is the second part of a series on 4 layers of racial pain, our internalised white supremacist, the family of origin, our community, and the external collective oppressor.

Last week, the focus was on our internalised white supremacist. Today, I weave the other 3 layers into the connection between slavery, child attachment, and how ‘disciplining’ our children with violence enables white supremacy’s mission to kill the souls of our people, and destroys our ability to have healthy adult relationships.

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Other stuff mentioned in this episode.

Neely Fuller

www.producejustice.com

 

Dr Francis Cress-Welsing

The Isis Papers

www.theisispapersbookclub.com

 

John Bowlby

Mary Ainsworth

Thomas Thistlewood

Frederick Douglass

Dr Stacey Patton

Spare the Kids: Why Whupping Children Won’t Save Black America

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TBS05: Understanding Racial Pain With Mindfulness Part 1

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Greetings Mindful Yardie’s, I hope the day finds you well.

In today’s show I share on one of four layers of racial pain, the four layers are;

1/ Internalised racism and the relationship with self.

2/ Recycled trauma within our  family of origin

3/ Community pain and the silence, enabling racial codependency which feeds the system.

4/ Oppressive social relationship with the institutions that control and maintain our oppression

Today’s focus is on our internalised white supremacist. I talk openly about the trauma of being black, and the impact this had on my relationships and identity in early recovery with a white sponsor and fellows. There are also lots of tools and nuggets to empower you and help you begin to understand and manage the pain of living under this system. The other 3 layers mentioned will be covered in next week’s show.

In service,

June x

Links, books and authors mentioned in this episode:

Dr Francis Cress-Welsing – The Isis Papers

www.theisispapersbookclub.com

Neely Fuller – The United Compensatory Code System Concept  For Victims of White Supremacy

www.producejustice.com

Louise Hay – You Can Heal Your Life

You can find lots of literature about racial wellness, addiction, and the 12 step recovery process in the link below in the recovery/addiction category:

http://www.yardofgreatnessstore.com

YOG03: 3 Ways to Nurture Your Relationships Over The Holidays.

https://bumpers.fm/e/b1dh1r6v4uo002qaf0c0

 

Greetings Mindful Yardie’s

One of the most delicious things I adore learning is the powerful art of building relationships. When we lack self awareness, sometimes our connections can be a painful cycle of defensive reactions. However, as we learn more about ourselves, we can respond and nurture our relationships with a lot more emotional intimacy, awareness and clarity.

In today’s show I’m sharing 3 powerful ways to nurture your relationships today and beyond 2017. This holiday break is a great opportunity to begin nourishing the people and community that means so much to us.

Happy Holidays!

Enjoy x.

June