Addiction is a Family Disease

I’ve been a little quiet over the last few days, because it was my late brothers birthday on the 7th of September. After many years of substance abuse, he died aged 46.
Many of us don’t understand addiction, and are quick to judge those who act out with drink, drugs, food, sex or any other behaviours that sabotage our ability to show up and shine in our greatness.
For black folks, addiction is a cultural disease rooted in a desperate need to escape the vulnerability of our blackness. We carry the scars of slavery and todays oppression which vilifies our melanin magic.
Without a revolutionary program of gentleness, healing and compassion, our people will continue to recycle their pain by hurting ourselves and each other.
The last conversation I had with my brother was painful because he was high and incoherent.
I felt powerless over his suffering.
I was scared of getting THAT phone call. That my sobriety could not save him.
In recovery, I learned to let go of the guilt of not being able to end his misery. Today, I honor him by sharing the power of racial sobriety with those who are willing and able to do the work.
Healing begins when we accept that we cannot control how others choose to manage their pain. We let go of trying to save those we love, and focus on healing ourselves.
Today, I will not abandon myself in the compulsive need to rescue others. My recovery and healing must always come first.
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 In this previous podcast, I  talk more openly about my brothers addiction and how his death continues to keep me sober and serving the community.

To get started on your journey to racial sobriety, go to www.sobriety.juneallen.net
 for your free course with 7 powerful masterclasses.

Black Women’s Well-Being Event with Naomi Davidson.

Greetings and thanks for taking the time to hang out with me.

Today, I’m chatting to Naomi Davidson who is a well-being consultant and she’s all about empowering Sista’s. She got in touch as a result of the series I did on wounded daughters  to ask if I would be on the panel for her event ( 23 June 2018) which is specifically around to our UK experience.

We caught up earlier this week to chat about what to expect at the event, and next week we’re going to record a more detailed podcast about the results of her research. You can listen to our chat here.

Hope to see you Saturday!

June

 

 

YOG34: The Seven Keys to Black Empowerment: #7 Service.

*Trigger Warning : This podcast contains adult discussions about sexual abuse.*

Greetings Family,

This final key to black empowerment is all about service and it’s gonna blow you away!

I’m sharing the platform with Tamar Nwafor, a wife, mother and multiple business owner who fled Jamaica in 1999 from domestic violence and sexual abuse. With a mother unable to protect her, she became involved in drugs and gang violence, but this power house made a commitment to heal and is now serving the community by sharing her experience, strength and expertise to help others.

Woooi…..When sista’s get together, fire bruk out!

Be Empowered!

 

You can contact Sista Tamar and her fabulous businesses below.

www.gage.org.co.uk  Business development.

www.kingsandqueensunited.com   Dating site for melanin rich singles.

For details about the women’s support group,

email ladylionesstamar@gmail.com or call her on 07947839949

Sista Tamar will also be part of Build Your Blacknificence  My wounded daughters mastermind to heal from maternal abuse. The registration doors close on Sunday 11th March 2018 at midnight London time. Join us here.

 

 

YOG32: The 7 Keys To Black Empowerment: #5 Setting Boundaries

Greetings Fam,

We’re continuing our conversation to find the 7 Keys To Black Empowerment. The 5th key is all about setting boundaries. If you don’t know what does and doesn’t work for you, you make yourself vulnerable to abuse.

In this session I explores the difference between social, external and internal  boundaries. I also share how practicing them must be the foundation for our emotional emancipation and personal empowerment!

Enjoy!

www.daughters.juneallen.net

Healing from racism through personal empowerment and the 12 steps of recovery.

 

YOG31: The 7 Keys to Black Empowerment: #4 Understand Your Wound.

Hey Fam,

The conversation continues about the 7 Keys To Black Empowerment. The 4th key is to understand your wound. How do you manage your pain? Are you avoiding the responsibility of your own healing by blaming others or obsessing about the white man. This session is all about the importance of staying in your own lane and being laser focused on what is in our control. I also share why the black woman’s healing is vital to the future of our legacy.

Be empowered!

6 week mastermind for wounded daughters: Join the waiting list at www.daughters.juneallen.net

YOG30: The 7 Keys to Black Empowerment: #3 Understand Racism.

Greetings Fam,

Today, I’m continuing our conversation about the 7 keys to black empowerment. The 3rd key is to study our enemy. In order heal, we must understand racism. This session will teach you WHAT racism is through the work of Mr Neely Fuller, and WHY racism is here through the work of Dr Francis Cress Welsing.

Be empowered!

 

Books mentioned in this episode:

Mr Neely Fuller: www.producejustice.com

Dr Welsing: The Isis Papers

6 week mastermind for wounded daughters: Join the waiting list at www.daughters.juneallen.net

 

YOG29: The 7 Keys to Black Empowerment: #2 Use Your Tools.

Many of us are not taught emotional literacy in our families because survival is the default way of being. Feelings are not allowed so you deny, suppress, numb out and react whenever you feel unsafe.

Emotional sobriety is our ability to feel and cope with our emotions. This helps us to respond instead of reacting to our environment. When we’re sober we can make better choices for ourselves, our family and community.

In order to achieve emotional sobriety, you need to use the appropriate tools to honor your feelings and shift the energy to create change instead of feeling enslaved inside their intensity.

In today’s podcast I share the 2nd Key to Black Empowerment, Use The Tools. I share more about the power of emotional sobriety and my 3 step system with tools to empower yourself psychologically.

Links mentioned in this episode.

The 7 Keys to Black Empowerment: #1 Truth

6 week mastermind for wounded daughters. join the wait list at  www.daughters.juneallen.net.

 

 

 

 

YOG27: The Power of Black Mindfulness with Faith Agugu.

Greetings Family,
With the hustle and bustle of the holidays along the juggernaut of white supremacy, it’s important to be able to stay present to what is going on internally.
This week, I’m happy to be sharing the podcast space with Faith Agugu. A compassionate, holistic counselor and healer who’s generous with her wisdom on how to use mindfulness as a ‘secret weapon’ for wellness and personal empowerment.
We also chat about the white washing of mindfulness, the spirituality of melanin, loving your inner child, recovery and so much more! There are so many nuggets in this one, don’t miss it!
Enjoy!

Links mentioned in this episode.
You can reach Faith here:
Book the workshop or 1 on 1 session :
Meditations:
Any other questions or comments, email June at info@yardofgreatness.com

Give yourself the gift of empowerment.

YOG26:10 Ways to Manage Black Pain

Greetings Family,

The reason why so many of us struggle under the system of white supremacy, is because we don’t understand our pain or what to do with it. When we’re triggered by all the racist aggression, we deny, avoid and stuff down the emotions in order to cope with the abuse and feelings of powerlessness. The unheard pain is internalised, and it’s energy leaks out in how we care for ourselves and those we love.

A crucial part of our healing requires us to honor our black pain. It’s essential to find healthy, sober ways to listen to what the pain is trying to tell us, and transform it into behaviours which restore our sense of balance. Our suffering can teach us where we need to set boundaries around the  people, places or things which undermining our serenity. In this session, I share 10 tools to manage your black pain.

Listen up below.

 

Till next time,

With Blackalicous Love,

June

Links mentioned in this episode:

FREE mini course ‘7 Days of revolutionary black self love’

 


YOG25: 15 Reasons Why Black Self Love is Important.

Greetings Family,

I’m so happy to be hearing a lot more Sista’s talking about practicing black self love. It means that a lot more of us are being vocal about our vulnerabilities, and the need to take better care of ourselves.

I don’t want the concept of self care to just become the latest buzz word or that it’s just all about essential oils and taking extra naps, so today, I’m using the show to share 15 powerful reasons WHY black self love is an important revolutionary practice that we should be smashing the sh*t out of. Every. Single. Day!

When we take this stuff on like a beast, we can strangle our internalised racist and dismantle the external system of white supremacy at the same time!

Dive in! Enjoy! Execute!

With Blackalicious Love

June x

 

 

Healing From Racism Through Personal Empowerment and Racial Sobriety.