Self Hate Healing Hack!

After years of not liking ourselves it can often be hard to set boundaries as part of our new commitment to self love.

One of the things that gives me so much joy is seeing how the Sacred Sistas in the mastermind have grown from using the community to practice and share what I call ’emotional book ending.’

It’s a really powerful way to set the boundary and get support to deal with any difficult feelings or backlash from the process. Click below to watch the video and get the tea on how it works!

African Health and Wellbeing Day with Nigel Stewart

I thoroughly enjoyed this rich, cultural, playful and passionate conversation with Nigel Stewart. We talked about his early entrepreneur roots, the legacy of healing for our community, politics and negotiating whiteness. I also asked him, is it lovers rock or bashment? fried or boiled dumplin? 🤣🤣 and of course we talked all about how to get the best out of the African Health and Wellbeing Day. One of my fave live streams to date!Enjoy!

The One Thing You Need to Master Your Healing.

Greetings Family,

The Yard of Greatness podcast is back and I’m excited about sharing today’s really simple empowerment seed. Sometimes we can get so caught up in trying to control everything about our healing process which often only creates more stress. In this session, I share one simple reminder that will keep you moving forward even when things get tough. Enjoy!

 

Racial Sobriety Gifts.

Yaasssss, I completed my first virtual conference and although I’m knackered, I learned so much! Thank you to those who participated and contributed, I could never have done this alone. Now you know how much I love my peeps, so you know I have to share some of the goodies from the conference.

If you were not ale to attend and would like a free taste of the experience, you can now download the 5 speaker shares and 1 masterclass with love, from me! Topics include:

Self Acceptance and Food addiction.

Unworthiness and Underearning.

Trauma, codependency and relationship addiction.

Interracial sponsorship.

The power of cultural top and bottom lines.

 

How to start a POC meeting in your primary fellowship.

If these resonate, you can listen to them at www.racialsobrietyrooms.com

Self Determination: Kwanzaa Day 2

Kwanzaa Day 2 is about Self-Determination (Kujichagulia). To define and name ourselves, as well as create and speak for ourselves.

The definition of self-determination is the act of making up one’s own mind about what to think or do, without outside influence. Living under the system of racism means that our thinking is often filled with negative thoughts about our blackness.

Today, remember that you can choose to embrace and honour your cultural values without apology.

If you’re feeling disconnected around your identity, download the Kwanzaa Savers guide to reflect, rise and reconnect to your blacknificence.

www.kwanzaa.juneallen.net

Fill Your Cup

Today’s #sundayserenity,

Many of us are dry vessels desperately waiting, hoping and pleading with unavailable loved ones to fill us up. We share our pain, our emptiness and struggle hoping their response will make us feel worthy, whole and nourished.

This painful yearning cycle means our happiness always remains in the hands of others. Unchecked, our unmet needs seed anger, resentment and shame.

As we heal from within, we learn how to replenish our own inner well. In embracing our Higher self and the wisdom of our ancestors, we find an oasis of melanin love, self compassion and confidence that has always been at our core.

Just for today, I will remember that I am responsible for my nourishment, my greatness, my black girl joy. In this moment, I will chose actions that nurture my Highest Self.

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Do Your Children Trigger You?

Do you light up when your child/ren come into the room or do you often feel irritated?

Every time the summer break arrives, I hear alot of parents struggling with spending so much extra time with their child/ren.

Is this you? #Nojudgement

For years I secretly dreaded the summer because I knew I’d be confronted with parenting pain I wasn’t ready to face.

In recovery, I learned that the reason my daughter triggered me so much had nothing to do with her behavior.

Every act of closeness triggered the child in me that was unhealed, unheard and desperate to feel loved.

If we’re wiling, our children’s presence can provide powerful opportunities for us to see where we still need healing.

If we want to be mothers who are present and emotionally available, it’s important that our inner/Higher Parent looks after our inner wounded child.

Just for today, I will be mindful of how I talk to my inner child. When I am kind and loving to myself, this is mirrored in how I love my child/ren.

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What to learn more about mindful motherhood?

I have a compassionate training for wounded daughters with exploration and tools for loving your children when your mother couldn’t love you. Find out more at:

www.mothers.juneallen.net