Sunday Serenity: Superpower Sobriety

Racial Sobriety is the superpower that rebuilds our lives from the inside out. Our experience is filtered through the lens of self compassionate, instead of endless bleeding from the wounds of chronic black shame.

Addiction is not just about the drink and drugs, it’s any compulsive behavior that allows us to escape the pain of living in reality. In our desperate powerlessness, we use the people, places and things to numb the suffering inside the truth.

Racism is the compulsive abuse of power and melanin, is the trigger. In recovery, I learned that I’m powerless over those who practice white supremacy, but have the power to choose how I respond.

Have you experienced racism in the rooms? Are you new to this concept and want to know where to begin? After years of experience, strength and hope in my own recovery process. I created the The Racial Sobriety Starter Guide to share the tools and strategies to support you with yours.

‘Racial sobriety is loving yourself so much that, that racism becomes irrelevant.’

 

This reading was taken from the FREE Starter Guide 7 Steps to Unlock Your Sista Superpowers 

 

 

The Drift

The drift happens when we don’t have a vision for our lives. We go from one day to the next reacting to what’s required of us in each moment.
Under white supremacy, we feel powerless over the oppression and lose site of who we are. Our core sacredness gets buried under the rubble of relantless trauma and abuse,
In recovery, we commit to a new life of cultural intimacy. Today, I will not sit on the sidelines of my life. I will make one choice that will liberate me from the war within myself.

Empowerment Seeds

Most of us want to heal from the impact of racism. We want the confidence, relationships and racial sobriety that blooms on the road to wholeness.
Trouble is, many of us may not get this. Not because we don’t deserve it, but because we don’t want to respect the process. We’re trying to walk the path on our own terms and don’t want to release the people, places or things which sabotage our healing.
Malcolm X says that, ‘Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss contains its own seed, it’s own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time.”
There is no fast track to avoid the pain that comes with your growth. Just for today, use the pain as a powerful tool to learn where love needs to be seeded.
Affirmation: I nurture the seeds that will set me free.
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Self Compassion

One of the characteristics of being out of alignment, is when we lose touch with our humanity. With the endless demands of life and the exhaustion of living under white supremacy, we’re numb to our own basic needs. The result is that we become trapped in the doing instead of staying present in the being.
As black women, we’re taught to nurture everyone else. We’ve become the mules  of the world and a lot of us do this in chronic emotional pain and isolation. In my wounded daughters series, I also talk about the added stress of having to navigate the challenges of maternal abuse.
When we practice self compassion, we seed the reconnection to our humanness. As we accept the truth about where we are, we can begin to make healthier choices about how our needs can be met.  In today’s podcast, I’m sharing 3 ways to practice revolutionary self compassion.
Till next time
With Blackalicious Love
June x

When is the right time to start your healing?

‘The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any. – Alice Walker.
We’re already at the end of January and hopefully, happy holidays have faded into the distance. However, if you’re still seething from the savage reminder of the pain still being recycled around you, how long are you willing to avoid looking at the cost of your denial in these relationships?
How long are you willing to accept unhappiness, because you’re trapped in the pain of uncertainty? When is going to be the right time to start doing the heart work?
January is the time we make promises with good intentions about the changes we want in our lives. We’re tired of dragging around the same old dysfunction and make endless promises to align our expectations with idealistic perfection.
We say what we want,  we understand why we want it, but fail to have an honest dialog about HOW we’re actually going to get it. January is done and real life has settled in so we slip back into the same coping strategies we used to avoid the pain of living in our truth.
Now we’re soaked in the shame of falling off the empowerment wagon again, and again, and again. When is going to be the right time to ask for help?
Procrastinated tomorrows only poison your legacy and trap you inside the unheard pain of today. Extracting dysfunction doesn’t have to wind you from being present in everyday life. Your transformation can take place in a cultural village nurtured through tenderness, understanding and patience.
In recovery, we learn that change doesn’t happen through annual declarations and willpower. We gently take our time to work the program and use the tools to take the next compassionate step, from one moment to the next. There is never a right time to start doing the heart work, you just have to decide and then take action.  Now. In this moment. No matter how small.
Today, I am willing to admit powerlessness over my fear of change. The longer I stay in denial, the more my life and relationships become unmanageable.
Affirmation: I am worthy of healing. I choose to ask for help from those who have walked the path before me.
With Blackalicious love.
June x

You Folks Are So Kind :)

Greetings! I hope the day finds you well.

I’ve had some lovely messages from some of you on social media, and thought it would be nice to share them here. It’s always great getting feedback because this work is not easy, and I’m always mindful to deliver my best practices with truth and tenderness. When I get the feedback I do, it’s a great reminder that I am on the right track with my vision to serve you. Here are the screen shots, I particularly love the one written in patois. Have a blessed and beautiful day. 😊

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Will you support our black psychotherapy students so they can serve you?

Hey Mindful Yardies, I hope the day finds you well? I came across this campaign recently which is really close to my heart and had to share it with you to see if you can help?

Training to become a psychotherapist is an incredibly difficult path. Not only because you’re required to bare your soul as part of the process, but as a black person, you also have to navigate the racial dynamics inside a system which still has a long way to go in serving the needs of people of colour.

To address this issue, Eugene Ellis, founded  the Black and Asian Therapists Network (BAATN). The project provides mutual support for practicing therapists, along with an amazing platform to meet the therapeutic needs of  our community. I have used their services both  personally and professionally as part of my ongoing psychotherapy training.  It has been an amazing community to safely explore and identify with others regarding the challenges of racism inside these learning institutions.

In building the future of BAATN, the project needs your support  today to address the high drop-out rate of students in training by offering an  ‘Each One Teach One’ mentorship programme. The project has already been running for a few years but needs a boost and there are only a few days left to pledge!

Please give what you can, our community needs to support these new therapists so we can provide the services you deserve!