One of the hardest things about the healing process is letting go of control.
Many of us have experienced so much pain, that our lives have become a compulsive mission to control everything around us so that we feel safe.
We’re desperate to feel secure because our wiring has been all chaos, unpredictability and mistrust. Staying in this fear driven space feeds our insanity because we cannot possibly control everything and everyone.
I’m hearing a lot of Sista’s sharing the pain about their abusive mothers and the powerless yearning they feel around the hurtful behavior.
You’re looking for answers, solutions and understanding as to how you can control your mothers abuse and end your pain. The truth is, you can’t.
The only solution is to let go of control and surrender to taking care of yourself. Surrendering doesn’t mean being her doormat, it literally means to stop fighting. To step back, breathe and stop fighting with yourself. To stop resisting and pushing back against the reality of what is going on in your body at this very moment as a result.
Letting go doesn’t mean that feelings of control will disappear, it just means that your willingness to surrender will redirect this energy towards actions that focus on you.
Today, I will let go and surrender to the truth of where I am in this moment.
Till next time,
With Blackalicious love.
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