Recycled racial pain means that intimacy is often confused with self abandonment, smothering and chronic care taking.
You co-dependently cram your emotional space with the needs of others in order to belong, connect and feel ‘loved.’
When this becomes a default pattern in your life, being seen then becomes a painful trigger for shame and isolation from those you love.
In recovery, we learn that self intimacy must proceed relational intimacy. We use patience, kindness and self reflection to take the tender journey back to ourselves.
When you master the art of self intimacy, the whole world becomes your lover.
This connection is nurtured by your ability to explore, reflect and ride the journey of being human.
As you surrender to the process of discovery, you’ll move from avoiding intimacy with isolation, to honoring your divinity in solitude.
Today, I will remember that I don’t have to give up my identity to be intimate.
Affirmation: Authentic intimacy with another begins with….. in/to/me/see.
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Till next time