Kwanzaa Day 2 is about Self-Determination (Kujichagulia). To define and name ourselves, as well as create and speak for ourselves. The definition of self-determination is the act of making up one’s own mind about what to think or do, without outside influence. Living under the system of racism means that our thinking is often filled […]
Author: June Allen
Happy Kwanzaa Unity!
Peace and blessing family, Happy Kwanzaa! Kwanzaa is a global, week-long celebration which honours 7 cultural values. Kwanzaa means first fruits of the harvest in Swahili. This takes place from 26th December to 1st January. We celebrate one principle each day using Swahili words and end with a huge feast and gift-giving. Today is Day […]
10 Family Boundaries for Christmas Calm
Only a few days left now before Christmas and if your anxiety is rising from thoughts about spending time with dysfunctional family. This simple checklist will help you make some compassionate choices about how you will spend your time. The first 5 questions are specific around your internal boundaries, getting honest about what feels OK […]
3 Core Holidays Triggers To Manage with Love.
Today, I wanna talk about 3 core triggers to watch out for during the festive season and how to manage them with self love. Manic Energy: With all the shopping, planning, child school invites and all round pressure to always be filled with goodwill for the season, this can quickly lead to anxiety and stress. […]
YOG36 A Sneek Peep Inside The Bell Hooks Book Club.
Hey, Hey Sacred Sista, If you’ve been on the fence about joining the circle, you’re in for a treat today! I’m giving you a sneek peep inside the what, the why and the how of this blackalicious sacred space. In this podcast episode, I share the step by step process through the session and why […]
How to Heal With Black Women When You Were Bullied By Them.
Many of us understand that black self hate and colorism is a huge issue in our community, but many do not understand it’s complexity and how it manifests inside our relationships. In today’s session, I answer a question from a biracial sista who wants to heal with black women, is doing the work, but finds […]
x3 Book Club Blessings.
This weekend (8th December) will be the 3rd Sacred Sista Circle Book Club where we study, ‘Sista’s of The Yam: Black Women and Self Recovery.’ By Bell Hooks. I have to say that I’ve had several emotional moments being in the space where sista’s felt safe enough to begin sharing their truth and finding themselves. […]
The Ultimate To Do List For Black Self Love!
Do it first – Make self love a priority. Do it slowly! Loving yourself can feel uncomfortable if you’re not used to it, so do it slowly so you can learn about yourself with presence #babystepsmatter. Do it with feeling – You can only heal through feeling your way through the healing process. Use your […]
Happy 50th Birthday To Me!
Today is my 50th Birthday and I am so grateful to be alive, thriving and sober! I’ve already been in the ugly cry several times today from all the wonderful messages from friends and my Sacred Sista Mentees. I used to hate birthdays in the past because it would trigger shame about being seen, anxiety […]
You Are Not Powerless!
With a history and culture of unheard pain, it makes sense that many of us feel a deep sense of powerlessness. We feel powerless over white supremacy, powerless over the ‘loved’ ones who hurt us, and powerless over the unmanageable impact it’s had on our lives. The result of unheard powerlessness and oppression is learned […]