Today’s live a very vulnerable one for me as I share how being in 12 step recovery saved my life. It’s been a while since I shared my story at this level so I hope it inspires you to keep going! You might need some tissues for this one!!!
Greetings, the 2nd June is my 10 year sobriety birthday and I’m so grateful! It’s been a rollercoster of pain, incite, lessons, healing and growth and I wouldn’t change any of it! It’s made me proud of who I am today!
I this session, I’m sharing 10 lessons I’ve learned.
- Racism is an addiction to power.
- White people are never going to rescue you.
- You learn to trust by trusting.
- Compassion trumps positivity.
- Sobriety requires softness.
- You can’t heal alone.
- Black only spaces are everything!
- Educate yourself about black psychology.
- Not all black folk want to heal but shaming them doesn’t work either.
- Every baby step counts.
If you think you might be addicted or are in recovery looking for more information about racial sobriety, details can be found at www.theblacksteps.com
I could not let January slip by without sharing some step one racial sobriety recovery in the first month of this year. The adapted step 1 from AA translates to us as, ‘We admitted we were powerless over the impact of racism (white supremacy), that our lives had become unmanageable.’ To break this down, I am thrilled to be sharing the space with my sista in recovery Rineya who agreed to join me to share her experience strength and hope on this first step as a black women healing from addiction. We explore the pain and powerlessness of living under the system of white supremacy, her rock bottom moment, tokenism, racism in the rooms, and the power of black spaces which bring hope in taking this first step. You don’t want to miss this! You can connect with Rineya at www.myblackexperience.co.uk or follow her on instagram @Rineya_Umran_ka
In today’s episode, June shares about racial sobriety within the context of recovery. She talks about the history, the blocks to racial sobriety and how to include it in your recovery process. For more details and tools about racial sobriety in recovery go to www.heal.juneallen.net
It’s been a while since I’ve done a podcast but its good to be back! In this session I share about what to do when you’ve been in recovery a while and experience rock bottoms with each new layer of growth. I also share what’s been happening in my recovery around realignment as I level up around the women I’m stepping into in 2020. Enjoy!
With UK Fathers Day around the corner, I’ve seen alot posts with anxious wounded daughters feeling sad about their absent fathers. When I talk about being absent, its not just about being physically absent, but also about being emotionally absent. Today, I’m sharing 5 Reasons why your dad can’t hear you.
- In order to empathise with your pain, he has to be connected to his own and he may not be ready for that.
- He may not be ready to face the consequences of the pain he has caused you. Apologies require the responsibility to take action and show up in the relationship with you and for himself.
- He may feel a lot of shame about his behavior which means this chronic sense of unworthiness will keep him triggered and feeling undeserving of having a relationship with his daughter.
- If he’s an addict and in active addiction it will be hard for him to see beyond his acting out behaviours.
- If he lacks the emotional maturity and is really disconnected from himself, he will continue to use you as a scapegoat to dump his feelings.
Watch the free web class below for tools and support.
If you are in 12 step recovery or think you might be addicted, these 7 essentials will help you navigate the healing process in the recovery rooms as a person of colour.
- You need to educate yourself to understand the psychology of racism.
- Be honest about the impact of racism on your life. You can’t change what you don’t understand about yourself.
- Explore the dysfunctional/ addictive survival patterns you used to avoid your pain.
- Use your tools, cultural top and bottom lines will keep you safe and build racial self esteem.
- Keep yourself safe from 13th step predetors, especially if you are new to recovery.
- Build your support network and be mindful of how interracial sponsorship or therapy could block your healing.
- For all my seasoned fellows in recovery, start your own POC meeting in your primary fellowship. The mirroring and identification is beyond powerful!
Watch the free webclass below for a deeper breakdown. Go to www.racialsobrietyrooms.com to get your ticket to the conference.
With a history and culture of unheard pain, it makes sense that many of us feel a deep sense of powerlessness. We feel powerless over white supremacy, powerless over the ‘loved’ ones who hurt us, and powerless over the unmanageable impact it’s had on our lives.
The result of unheard powerlessness and oppression is learned helplessness. When we’re taught that we have no power, we stay trapped in a child like state where being seen or heard is emotionally unsafe. I’ve often described myself as this adult child and the anger I swallowed around my powerlessness became depression. My oppression became depression. The anger without the fire……….. Want more?
The 13 November will be my 50th Birthday and I’m sharing a collection of 50 lessons, revelations and rituals (FREEDOM 50 Series) that have nurtured my serenity and what I hope, will inspire you to stay on the path of healing. This session is one of my 10 life lessons. Click here to here the full session in audio, You are not powerless!
Till Next time,
Your sista in service.