In the previous episode, I explored how maternal jealousy can affect daughters emotionally, psychologically, and relationally. In this episode, I wanted to focus on what often goes unspoken, how these early experiences can follow us into our professional lives.
Many of the therapists, coaches, healers, and wellness practitioners I work with are exceptionally skilled at supporting others. Yet behind the scenes, many struggle with visibility, charging appropriately for their work, receiving appreciation, and building supportive professional relationships.
These challenges are not always business problems, sometimes they are attachment wounds, often mother wounds. If we grew up in environments where our gifts were minimised, our success was met with criticism, or our visibility created tension, our nervous systems may learn that being seen is unsafe. That learning does not simply disappear because we become adults. Instead, it can show up as undercharging, overworking, hiding online, procrastinating around marketing, or feeling uncomfortable when someone genuinely values what we offer.
In this episode, I explore some of the ways these patterns can emerge in our work and relationships. I also discuss why healing requires more than insight alone. Healing involves grieving. Grieving the mother we needed and the encouragement we never received. It means grieving the protection, celebration, and emotional safety that should have been available to us. Alongside grief, I discuss the importance of developing a strong inner parent who can begin offering the care, protection, and affirmation that was missing.
One of the themes that feels especially important is learning how to receive. Many of us have become experts at giving. Giving care, support and understanding. Receiving, however, can feel far more vulnerable when we have a history of neglect. The ability to receive praise, support, opportunities, rest, love, and abundance requires a nervous system that has learned it is safe to do so. This episode is an invitation to begin examining these patterns with compassion rather than judgement.
If the conversation resonates with you, I invite you to join my upcoming experience, The Mother Wound and Your Money. Together we will explore how early attachment experiences can shape our relationship with visibility, worthiness, receiving, and financial wellbeing. You do not have to navigate these wounds alone.