For so many of us, birthdays are complicated. Society says our birthday should be a day of joy, surrounded by love and celebration. But as a trauma therapist, I hear a very different story from my clients. Their birthdays are far from joyful, often filled with shame, sadness, and a deep sense of loneliness. If […]
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16 Years of Recovery: Reflections on Living in the Promises
In this episode, I’m marking 16 years in recovery. Yay me!! Looking back to 2010, the person I was then had very specific ideas about what healing and racial sobriety would look like. The reality of my journey as a black person in recovery has been far more profound and wonderful than I could ever […]
Do I Need Therapy or Coaching?
If you’ve ever wondered whether you need therapy or coaching, you’re not alone. It’s a question not talked about enough and important for anyone deeply committed to their growth but feel unsure about where to invest their time, energy, and money. In this week’s podcast, I’m opening up this conversation so you can begin to […]
What does safety look like in Black mother-daughter relationships?
Explore what safety can actually look like in Black mother–daughter relationships — something many of us were never shown. For many Black women, what was modelled instead was survival: silence, strength, hypervigilance and performance. I unpack the difference between survival and true safety, and how these dynamics can shape our nervous systems, emotional expression and […]
Are you scared of being visible?
In today’s session, I want to dive compassionately into this topic as it’s something I see destroying our community on so many levels. First, I feel it’s important to say that the fear of being visible for melanated folks is not a personal failing but a protective strategy that has deep roots in our traumatic […]
Don’t Abandon Yourself this Christmas
Self-abandonment during the holidays is driven by external expectations and internal struggles that do not include our needs. In this live stream I share some characteristics of self abandonment and how to prioritise your wellness at Christmas.
Should you join my RISE cultural coaching program?
Are you considering joining my RISE program but aren’t sure if you’re ready? If so, you probably have questions like: How does the program work? What healing results can I expect and how quickly? What’s in the program curriculum? How much is it? Watch the video to find out what to expect and the transformation […]
3 Things to consider before setting new year intentions.
The days between Christmas and new year is often a space for reflection about the previous months and planning what’s possible going forward. Before moving forward, I always encourage pausing to explore 3 vital questions that will help to shape your new year choices.
6 types of racial stress and what to do about it.
With the media full of more racial stress and trauma from the Armard Arbury trial, the death of Malcom X’s daughter, the Windrush scandal and Kyle Rittenhouse, it has been a very distressing week. It often feels like we can never catch a break to breathe and grieve so every so often, I’ll share a […]
How black history builds confidence.
Black history month is a powerful opportunity to do a black girl magic check-in! How are you feeling about your melanin today? In this session, I share how to use our historical and contemporary giants to inspire and build confidence. Use what you discover to empower the choices you can make to stand in your […]