In a healthy mother and baby relationship, a secure attachment is formed when they are responsive and can provide nurturing care, protection, and emotional support. Building a secure attachment is important for: Babies’ brain development. Learning to self soothe. Feeling deserving of care. Seeding self esteem. The first experience of love. Building confidence to communicate […]
Author: June Allen
Shut Your Inner Critic Up!
Journaling is a powerful tool to unpack, explore and change the relationship with your inner critic which is often in our unconscious chattin’ sh*t. Understanding the intersections of racism, oppression and gender within your family of origin or wider society is an important starting point to explore how we internalise the negative messages at a […]
Is your past hurting the present?
This month’s conversation in the Sacred Sista Sanctuary is about justice for your inner child. Inner child work provides an opportunity to explore how the pain of your past is hurting you today and will continue to bleed into your future without support. Journaling allows us to express and release pent-up emotions and feelings related […]
What does inner child work mean for black women?
If you were raised in an abusive, unsafe environment with neglectful caregivers, you would have had to adapt in some way in order to cope and survive. In this live I explore 6 maladaptive roles that children fall into to cope and also how they may still be playing out in an unhelpful way in your adult life.
‘How can I grieve the loss of someone still alive?’
One of the questions I am being asked a lot in session recently, is how clients can grieve the loss of someone still alive? If you have no contact with parents or other family members. this is a particularly complex and emotionally challenging issue that requires professional support, a support network and lots of self […]
A message for mothers who want to heal the relationship with their wounded daughters.
With UK Mothers Day tomorrow, I wanted to have an honest conversation with mothers who want to repair the relationship with their adult daughters. The discussion aims to nurture understanding and empower healing by temporarily setting aside the external issues around oppression to focus on the core relationship dynamics. If you are a mother who […]
Colourism, mixed heritage and the mother wound.
Today’s video is just a snippet of the themes I have been working with recently in session with clients of mixed heritage around colorism and the mother wound. I touch on the internalisation of racism from parent, identity confusion, racial shame and the power of mirroring as part of reclaiming the exiled melanated part.
5 Types of Toxic Mothers.
I recently posted some content on social media from the black mother wound series about 5 types of toxic mothers which resonated with so many sistas. So today, I want to share a more expansive exploration about the topic to understand the abusive power dynamics that can exist within mother-daughter relationships. The more you understand, […]
What to expect at the Managing Mothers Day retreat?
In this live stream I share what you can expect from attending the Managing Mother’s Day retreat. The half day in-person experience aims to assist black women in navigating the complexities of Mother’s Day, particularly for those with difficult relationships with their mothers. This retreat provides a safe space to address the challenges and offers […]
Weaponised Forgiveness?
Weaponised forgiveness for wounded daughters is a term used to describe the manipulation of forgiveness as a means to silence victims of harm, particularly daughters who have experienced maternal abuse. This concept is crucial to address as it stagnates our healing and allows the mother to maintain control over her daughter. By understanding the dynamics […]