You are lovable, Valentine’s day or not. Whether you’re in a relationship or single, today is a wonderful opportunity to review your relationship to relationships. Is today painful because you still carry the weight of unhealed relationship parts from the past? Is a parent wound keeping you stuck in a fearful, childlike, people pleasing dynamic? […]
Category: JUNES LOVE NOTES
? Family Scripts.
Many of us are compulsively hiding from our greatness because of the unconscious scripts we internalise from our dysfunctional families. Some of mine include: I’m not allowed to be more financially prosperous. I’m not allowed to be emotionally healthier. Having my own needs is selfish. And suffering is compulsory. Until I became conscious of these […]
? Your Tears Matter.
There’s been many times on this journey when pain has driven me into hiding. I couldn’t bare to be seen. In hiding from others, I could also hide from myself. Under the system of racism, I absorbed the don’t talk, don’t feel, don’t trust rule so the shame and vulnerability fed the compulsion to abandon myself. […]
? Tiktok Play!
I’ve just started a channel on Tiktok and I’m obsessed! If you’re not familiar with it, its a fun social media platform where people lip sync, create dance trends, sing and share content. It’s used by alot of teens and as you can imagine my daughter is mortified LOL!! Dance came up in the Healing Circle […]
Graduation Greatness!
A couple of weeks ago I was bursting with pride after hearing the graduation stories from my mastermind mentees. Since January, we’ve worked through my Self Love Essentials Course which empowers them to unpack their pain and build a nurturing relationship with themselves and each other. During the session we recapped each class before sharing […]
Goddesses Gone Wild!
Last week was one of the goddess’s birthday (Yvonne far left) so we gathered at her home to catch up. What ensued was a wonderful evening of food, conversation, dancing and an abundance of silliness that left us with sore jaws. What I learned from the evening is that sometimes you don’t know how much you miss something until […]
Self love lane.
Sometimes, the stories we tell ourselves are fear based, recycled lies from dysfunction family members and internalised racist thinking. We feel unworthy of love and respect because our black bodies are so used to being the space for others to dump their shit. In healing, we learn to separate what belongs to us and what […]
Letting Go
It takes a lot more energy to hold on than it does to let go, but what does letting go actually mean? Sometimes folks repeat it like a switch you just turn off, but we both know it’s not that easy. What I’ve learned is that there are three things which help us release the […]
Body Shame Clap backs ?
Every time I get dressed, my inner critic laughs at my lockdown love handles, shaming me about what others would say if they saw me naked. When she pipes up, I say STFU and feel gratitude for the extra curves that kept me alive through this pandemic the racial stress and sadness of loosing my dad. With […]
You are not alone
Early December is often filled with the busyness of Christmas. Spending money, expectations and gatherings build an emotional crescendo before falling into the stillness at the end of the month with endless TV, left overs and reflections of the year with those we love. Sometimes, this season is a painful reminder of those we’ve lost […]