Finding the right therapist can feel overwhelming for black folks, but it doesn’t have to be. In this episode, I share guidance on how to choose a therapist who is culturally competent, values-aligned, and capable of holding racialised trauma with care. Learn how to: Clarify your therapy goals and priorities. Assess fit through research and […]
Category: SELF LOVE
Estrangement, Oprah and the Black Family.
Last week I watched Oprah’s podcast on family estrangement, which brought up a lot of difficult feelings. I thought about the complexities of estrangement from my own family and the painful experiences of my clients trying to navigate the mindfu*k of layers around this topic. So, in this weeks podcast, I respond to Oprah’s session […]
How I Work With Clients.
In this session, I’m breaking down the culturally affirming, trauma-informed methods I use to work with clients. This episode is an invitation to understand what healing looks like working with me. We’ll explore the process for melanated bodies, identities, and relationships, along with how liberation becomes possible when we work with all the parts of […]
Living in the Recovery Promises.
On the 2 June 2010 I started working with a sponsor in my first recovery fellowship. Multiple fellowships and steps later, I am so grateful to be here 15 years after taking that first step to share how the promises of recovery continue to create miracles in my life. It’s easy to talk about the […]
Your Standing Ovation?
It never feels good to be criticised, but are you able to receive praise after a job well done? In my coaching group this week, one of my peers asked how my keynote at the Black and Asian Therapists Network conference went, and I felt myself shrink into shameful smallness. I played it down and sheepishly said […]
The Power of Kitty Calm.
Ever since I was a little girl, cats have always been a great source of comfort. There’s something so settling about being around the purring and ‘biscuit’ making. When I had no safe people to turn to, my cat with the only consistent love I knew. There’ve been many times when I’ve been upset and […]
‘How can I grieve the loss of someone still alive?’
One of the questions I am being asked a lot in session recently, is how clients can grieve the loss of someone still alive? If you have no contact with parents or other family members. this is a particularly complex and emotionally challenging issue that requires professional support, a support network and lots of self […]
Weaponised Forgiveness?
Weaponised forgiveness for wounded daughters is a term used to describe the manipulation of forgiveness as a means to silence victims of harm, particularly daughters who have experienced maternal abuse. This concept is crucial to address as it stagnates our healing and allows the mother to maintain control over her daughter. By understanding the dynamics […]
Sistahood and your Heart.
With the next Sista Sanctuary session happening on Tuesday evening, I want to give you a sneak peep at some of the heartwork questions we’ll be exploring in this live session. The theme is Unity in Sistahood and in todays live I explore 4 of the questions we’ll do a deeper dive in on Tuesday… Am I giving […]
Umoja (Unity) in sistahood.
My inspiration for today’s live was sparked from one of my favourite influencers, Candice Brathwaite. Candice’s fear and vulnerability during a dentist visit came with unexpected gentleness and care that brought her to tears. This really moved me and brought up reflections on so many of my clients exploring the impact of unmet maternal needs […]