You are lovable, Valentine’s day or not. Whether you’re in a relationship or single, today is a wonderful opportunity to review your relationship to relationships.
Is today painful because you still carry the weight of unhealed relationship parts from the past? Is a parent wound keeping you stuck in a fearful, childlike, people pleasing dynamic? Has it been years since your last relationship leaving you feeling totally shut down?
As a result of abusive caregivers and / or partners, many of us have found ‘safety’ in avoiding intimacy all together. Closeness has become a place of shame, disappointment and danger so the child in us has become an adult with steel protective walls to keep people out.
Rumi the poet tells us that, ‘The answer to the pain, is in the pain.’
Whilst difficult relationships cause ruptures, healing can only happen whilst re-engaging in relationship. Not the same ones that previously caused you harm, but with support and in the practice of discernment around how you understand, choose and move in relationships going forward.
In time, we can begin to feel safe as we heal the relationship with ourselves and use this as a benchmark to teach others how to love us.
Today, regardless of my past I affirm that I am loveable. I will move through today and beyond with the sacredness that I am.