In the previous episode, I explored how maternal jealousy can affect daughters emotionally, psychologically, and relationally. In this episode, I wanted to focus on what often goes unspoken, how these early experiences can follow us into our professional lives. Many of the therapists, coaches, healers, and wellness practitioners I work with are exceptionally skilled at […]
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Jealous Black Mothers, Wounded Daughters Part 1.
When a girl grows up being punished for shining, it often follows her into adult life. In this first of a two-part series, I explore a painful but important topic around what happens when a Black mother’s unresolved wounds are taken out on her daughter? This episode was inspired by a viral TikTok video showing […]
Are You Hiding At Work?
There’s a kind of hiding that doesn’t look like hiding. You’re showing up, you’re working doing all the things you’re supposed to do but something still feels held back. A part of you knows you could be more visible and expressive but something keeps pulling you away from the edge. When I talk about […]
Do I Need Therapy or Coaching?
If you’ve ever wondered whether you need therapy or coaching, you’re not alone. It’s a question not talked about enough and important for anyone deeply committed to their growth but feel unsure about where to invest their time, energy, and money. In this week’s podcast, I’m opening up this conversation so you can begin to […]
What does safety look like in Black mother-daughter relationships?
Explore what safety can actually look like in Black mother–daughter relationships — something many of us were never shown. For many Black women, what was modelled instead was survival: silence, strength, hypervigilance and performance. I unpack the difference between survival and true safety, and how these dynamics can shape our nervous systems, emotional expression and […]
What your inner child needs this Mothers Day.
Mother’s Day can be a beautiful celebration for many people, but for Black women who have painful, complicated, or estranged relationships with our mothers, it can also be one of the most emotionally difficult times of the year. In this episode, I talk openly about how to care for your inner children during Mother’s Day […]
How does the mother wound impact our romantic relationships?
In this deeply reflective episode, I talk about how the Black mother wound shows up in our romantic relationships. I share my personal experience and what I see working with clients over and over again: this kind of healing isn’t something you just “get over,” but a tender, lifelong commitment to compassionate care and self-parenting. […]
The Power of Silence: What Slowing Down Taught Me as a Black Woman.
As melanated folks, many of us were never taught to listen to our bodies, only to push through them. In this episode, I share how creating intentional space for quiet, reflection, and stillness helps us move out of survival mode and into something more spacious and honest. I talk about how silence and solitude helped […]
How to Find a Great Black Therapist.
Finding the right therapist can feel overwhelming for black folks, but it doesn’t have to be. In this episode, I share guidance on how to choose a therapist who is culturally competent, values-aligned, and capable of holding racialised trauma with care. Learn how to: Clarify your therapy goals and priorities. Assess fit through research and […]
Estrangement, Oprah and the Black Family.
Last week I watched Oprah’s podcast on family estrangement, which brought up a lot of difficult feelings. I thought about the complexities of estrangement from my own family and the painful experiences of my clients trying to navigate the mindfu*k of layers around this topic. So, in this weeks podcast, I respond to Oprah’s session […]