Month: February 2018

YOG31: The 7 Keys to Black Empowerment: #4 Understand Your Wound.

June Allen

Hey Fam,

The conversation continues about the 7 Keys To Black Empowerment. The 4th key is to understand your wound. How do you manage your pain? Are you avoiding the responsibility of your own healing by blaming others or obsessing about the white man. This session is all about the importance of staying in your own lane and being laser focused on what is in our control. I also share why the black woman’s healing is vital to the future of our legacy.

Be empowered!

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YOG30: The 7 Keys to Black Empowerment: #3 Understand Racism.

June Allen

Greetings Fam,

Today, I’m continuing our conversation about the 7 keys to black empowerment. The 3rd key is to study our enemy. In order heal, we must understand racism. This session will teach you WHAT racism is through the work of Mr Neely Fuller, and WHY racism is here through the work of Dr Francis Cress Welsing.

Be empowered!

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Books mentioned in this episode:

Mr Neely Fuller: www.producejustice.com

Dr Welsing: The Isis Papers

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YOG29: The 7 Keys to Black Empowerment: #2 Use Your Tools.

June Allen 1 Comment

Many of us are not taught emotional literacy in our families because survival is the default way of being. Feelings are not allowed so you deny, suppress, numb out and react whenever you feel unsafe.

Emotional sobriety is our ability to feel and cope with our emotions. This helps us to respond instead of reacting to our environment. When we’re sober we can make better choices for ourselves, our family and community.

In order to achieve emotional sobriety, you need to use the appropriate tools to honor your feelings and shift the energy to create change instead of feeling enslaved inside their intensity.

In today’s podcast I share the 2nd Key to Black Empowerment, Use The Tools. I share more about the power of emotional sobriety and my 3 step system with tools to empower yourself psychologically.

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Links mentioned in this episode.

The 7 Keys to Black Empowerment: #1 Truth

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Self – Intimacy

June Allen

Recycled racial pain means that intimacy is often confused with self abandonment, smothering and chronic care taking.

You co-dependently cram your emotional space with the needs of others in order to belong, connect and feel ‘loved.’

When this becomes a default pattern in your life, being seen then becomes a painful trigger for shame and isolation from those you love.

In recovery,  we learn that self intimacy must proceed relational intimacy. We use patience, kindness and self reflection to take the tender journey back to ourselves.

When you master the art of self intimacy, the whole world becomes your lover.

This connection is nurtured by your ability to explore, reflect and ride the journey of being human.

As you surrender to the process of discovery, you’ll move from avoiding intimacy with isolation, to honoring your divinity in solitude.

Today, I will remember that I don’t have to give up my identity to be intimate.

Affirmation: Authentic intimacy with another begins with….. in/to/me/see.

If you’re a daughter who struggles with the relationship with yourself because of your abusive black mother, join me and an intimate group of other wounded daughters for a healing 6 week mastermind, sign up here. 

Till next time

June x

YOG28: The Seven Keys to Black Empowerment: #1 Truth.

June Allen 2 Comments
Greetings Fam,
Over the next 7 weeks, I’m excited to be sharing, ‘The Seven Keys to Black Empowerment.’ The actual steps and processes we need to go through in order to end white supremacy from the inside out!
In this podcast episode, we’re talking about the the first key which is TRUTH. If we’re going to live an authentic, blackalicious life we must be willing to tell the truth about who and where we are. So why do we lie and HOW can we begin to speak our unapologetic the truth? This week I’ll share why telling the truth is hard for black people under the system of racism and within our relationships. We’ll also explore the internal consequences of lies, finding safe spaces to share and how it will transform your black self respect.
Enjoy!

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Links Mentioned in this episode

www.scared.juneallen.net 

Wounded Daughters webinar

www.therapy.juneallen.net

How to find a great black therapist.

www.byb.juneallen.net

Wounded daughters mastermind.

Self Compassion

June Allen
One of the characteristics of being out of alignment, is when we lose touch with our humanity. With the endless demands of life and the exhaustion of living under white supremacy, we’re numb to our own basic needs. The result is that we become trapped in the doing instead of staying present in the being.
As black women, we’re taught to nurture everyone else. We’ve become the mules  of the world and a lot of us do this in chronic emotional pain and isolation. In my wounded daughters series, I also talk about the added stress of having to navigate the challenges of maternal abuse.
When we practice self compassion, we seed the reconnection to our humanness. As we accept the truth about where we are, we can begin to make healthier choices about how our needs can be met.  In today’s podcast, I’m sharing 3 ways to practice revolutionary self compassion.
Till next time
With Blackalicious Love
June x

Recovery Step 2 Reflections

June Allen

Step 2: Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

Many of us have lost hope under the oppressive grind of white supremacy. You don’t trust anyone who looks like you because of the recycled family trauma.

You also don’t trust white people because they consciously and unconsciously act out, refine and maintain the system of racism. So we survive this mess through compulsive self-reliance. ‘I can be badass all by myself!’

Truth is, we’re wired for connection and all this ‘independent’ talk is really code for, ‘I’m scared to trust.’  Trust calls for a willingness to be vulnerable and being vulnerable triggers the pain of our early betrayals.

In recovery step 2, this is the beginning of learning to trust again. We start to give up control and become willing to build a new relationship with our Higher Self. A process of spiritual and racial intimacy that evolves over time.

This is done by breaking down the step words ‘Came to believe.’

First we, ‘came.’ We show up at meetings, call our sponsor, outreach with our brotha’s and sista’s and do the race related step work.

Second we, ‘came to.’ Our melanin magic awakens as we begin to experience the power of racial sobriety.

Third we, ‘came to believe.’ We begin to restore Maat (balance and harmony) as the empowerment process takes root inside how we show up in the world.

Today, I will remember that I am spiritual being having a human experience.

Affirmation: I am willing to trust the greater power within myself.

Ashe!

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