With UK Fathers Day around the corner, I’ve seen alot posts with anxious wounded daughters feeling sad about their absent fathers. When I talk about being absent, its not just about being physically absent, but also about being emotionally absent. Today, I’m sharing 5 Reasons why your dad can’t hear you. In order to empathise […]
Author: June Allen
7 Racial Sobriety Essentials.
If you are in 12 step recovery or think you might be addicted, these 7 essentials will help you navigate the healing process in the recovery rooms as a person of colour. You need to educate yourself to understand the psychology of racism. Be honest about the impact of racism on your life. You can’t […]
‘How can I embrace black beauty when I’m tired of feeling ugly?’
It’s difficult to love our blackness when we’re constantly being fed that we’re ugly via the system of racism. In this webclass, I break down the truths you need to explore to reclaim your body and celebrate your black femininity. Where did you learn/internalise that blackness was ugly? How was racism internalised and acted out […]
How to deal with a mother that doesn’t support your happiness.
It’s devastating when the women who is supposed to be cheering you on cannot. This can leave wounded daughters with shame and low self worth. In this webclass I share reasons why your mother behaves this way and then I share 5 ways to take care of yourself in this situation. Self nurturing /parenting. Be […]
How to Heal When the Village is Wounded.
*Abuse Trigger Warning* With so much stuff in the news recently around #muterkelly a sista asks, ‘It takes a village to raise a child, but how can we heal when the village is wounded?’ This is an important topic because many of us get so caught up in the savagery of white supremacy, that it’s hard […]
Faith : Kwanzaa Day 7
Imani (Faith): To believe with all our hearts in our people, our parents, our teachers, our leaders, and the righteousness and victory of our struggle. Faith is defined as having complete trust in someone or something. It can also be anchored in spiritual conviction rather than proof. Under the system of racism, the unheard, recycled […]
Creativity: Kwanzaa Day 6
Today’s principle is all about Creativity (Kuumba) : To do always as much as we can, in the way we can, in order to leave our community more beautiful and beneficial than we inherited it. Creativity is the sacred expression of Ra in motion. It’s our ability to transcend ‘traditional’ ideas, expectations and patterns to create […]
Purpose (Nia) : Kwanzaa Day 5
Nia (Purpose): To make our collective vocation the building and developing of our community in order to restore our people to their traditional greatness. Your purpose is defined as the reason for creating, or doing something. It’s our intentional engagement with something that has deep meaning. Racism white supremacy is set up for us to […]
Cooperative Economics: Kwanzaa Day 4
Ujamaa (Cooperative Economics): To build and maintain our own stores, shops, and other businesses and to profit from them together. Toni Morrison tells her students, ‘When you get these jobs that you have been so brilliantly trained for, just remember that your real job is that if you are free, you need to free somebody […]
Collective Work and Responsibility: Kwanzaa Day 3
Collective Work and Responsibility – Ujima : To build and maintain our community together and make our brothers’ and sisters’ problems our problems and to solve them together. To be responsible is about acknowledging your duty of care, to be accountable for a person, place or thing. Internalised racism often means that working together and looking […]