The summer holidays can be an transformative time for parents and children if we can be realistic about our emotional capacity and intentional about nurturing summer outcomes with ease. So, take a breath, pause and watch as I share some ideas to explore how to transform this sacred family time. I’ll be taking a break […]
Category: PARENTING
? Family Scripts.
Many of us are compulsively hiding from our greatness because of the unconscious scripts we internalise from our dysfunctional families. Some of mine include: I’m not allowed to be more financially prosperous. I’m not allowed to be emotionally healthier. Having my own needs is selfish. And suffering is compulsory. Until I became conscious of these […]
To See and Be Seen.
Most mornings I try to connect with Da Plantain (my daughter’s nickname) by having a family check in, but the last few days have been a bit hit and miss. Today, we focused on the feelings and needs chart I created to help with self awareness and emotional literacy. She looked through the feelings list […]
Holiday Series : Expectations.
With the holidays around the corner, June shares how to manage unrealistic exceptions which risk becoming resentments. For the next 2 weeks, I’ll be opening the Sista Circle space to help you get clear about your boundaries and process your feelings in safe space. This is part of the Living in Love program which you […]
Racism, Attachment and Loneliness.
Last Friday I attended a powerful conference which focused on attachment with a cultural perspective. In this live I share my thoughts on the conference. For more details on the Supporting Relationships and Families organisation go to www.serefo.org.uk
How to Deal with Back To School Anxiety.
If you’re a parent, many of our children have begun a new school year. My little plantain started big school last week and there has been lots of conversations around self acceptance in her new (white dominated) environment. This brought up a lot of my own stuff as I have also been the only black […]
How to Heal When the Village is Wounded.
*Abuse Trigger Warning* With so much stuff in the news recently around #muterkelly a sista asks, ‘It takes a village to raise a child, but how can we heal when the village is wounded?’ This is an important topic because many of us get so caught up in the savagery of white supremacy, that it’s hard […]
10 Family Boundaries for Christmas Calm
Only a few days left now before Christmas and if your anxiety is rising from thoughts about spending time with dysfunctional family. This simple checklist will help you make some compassionate choices about how you will spend your time. The first 5 questions are specific around your internal boundaries, getting honest about what feels OK […]
Black Women’s Well-Being Event with Naomi Davidson.
Greetings and thanks for taking the time to hang out with me. Today, I’m chatting to Naomi Davidson who is a well-being consultant and she’s all about empowering Sista’s. She got in touch as a result of the series I did on wounded daughters to ask if I would be on the panel for her event ( […]