YOG32: The 7 Keys To Black Empowerment: #5 Setting Boundaries

Greetings Fam,

We’re continuing our conversation to find the 7 Keys To Black Empowerment. The 5th key is all about setting boundaries. If you don’t know what does and doesn’t work for you, you make yourself vulnerable to abuse.

In this session I explores the difference between social, external and internal  boundaries. I also share how practicing them must be the foundation for our emotional emancipation and personal empowerment!



Healing from racism through personal empowerment and the 12 steps of recovery.


Letting Go

One of the hardest things about the healing process is letting go of control.

Many of us have experienced so much pain, that our lives have become a compulsive mission to control everything around us so that we feel safe.

We’re desperate to feel secure because our wiring has been all chaos, unpredictability and mistrust. Staying in this fear driven space feeds our insanity because we cannot possibly control everything and everyone.

I’m hearing a lot of Sista’s sharing the pain about their abusive mothers and the powerless yearning they feel around the hurtful behavior.

You’re looking for answers, solutions and understanding as to how you can control your mothers abuse and end your pain. The truth is, you can’t.

The only solution is to let go of control and surrender to taking care of yourself. Surrendering doesn’t mean being her doormat, it literally means to stop fighting. To step back, breathe and stop fighting with yourself. To stop resisting and pushing back against the reality of what is going on in your body at this very moment as a result.

Letting go doesn’t mean that feelings of control will disappear, it just means that your willingness to surrender will redirect this energy towards actions that focus on you.

Today, I will let go and surrender to the truth of where I am in this moment.


Till next time,

With Blackalicious love.

June x

Links mentioned in this episode: www.daughters.juneallen.net


YOG31: The 7 Keys to Black Empowerment: #4 Understand Your Wound.

Hey Fam,

The conversation continues about the 7 Keys To Black Empowerment. The 4th key is to understand your wound. How do you manage your pain? Are you avoiding the responsibility of your own healing by blaming others or obsessing about the white man. This session is all about the importance of staying in your own lane and being laser focused on what is in our control. I also share why the black woman’s healing is vital to the future of our legacy.

Be empowered!

6 week mastermind for wounded daughters: Join the waiting list at www.daughters.juneallen.net

YOG29: The 7 Keys to Black Empowerment: #2 Use Your Tools.

Many of us are not taught emotional literacy in our families because survival is the default way of being. Feelings are not allowed so you deny, suppress, numb out and react whenever you feel unsafe.

Emotional sobriety is our ability to feel and cope with our emotions. This helps us to respond instead of reacting to our environment. When we’re sober we can make better choices for ourselves, our family and community.

In order to achieve emotional sobriety, you need to use the appropriate tools to honor your feelings and shift the energy to create change instead of feeling enslaved inside their intensity.

In today’s podcast I share the 2nd Key to Black Empowerment, Use The Tools. I share more about the power of emotional sobriety and my 3 step system with tools to empower yourself psychologically.

Links mentioned in this episode.

The 7 Keys to Black Empowerment: #1 Truth

6 week mastermind for wounded daughters. join the wait list at  www.daughters.juneallen.net.





Are You Scared of Becoming Your Mother?

‘A wounded daughters acceptance of her mother’s inability to love requires willingness and courage. Willingness to accept the truth about her mothers limitations and courage to change the way she responds without self blame.’

This quote is an exert from a series of empowerment training’s I’m writing to honor the wounded daughters of abusive black mothers.

We cannot have honest conversations about wanting to end white supremacy, until we’re ready to raise our hands and do the healing work required to free ourselves internally.

I still have moments of pain and grief around my mother’s behavior, but I stay committed to the healing work because greatness is my birthright.

I also want a loving, mother experience for my little Plaintain, Zuri. 🙂

The more I learn and speak, the more I understand  the suffering in the community.

I want you to know that you are not alone.

There is hope.

When you empower a women you empower a nation.

You spoke, I listened.

Today, I’m sharing an opportunity for wounded daughters to have a compassionate, non-judgmental space to explore this topic and begin to find peace.  Details are below.


London Grenfell Fire and Counter Racist Parenting with C.O.W.S. Radio & Gus T Renagade

Greetings Family,

I have x2 radio shows to share with you today from my appearances on the C.O.W.S. radios show with Gus T Renegade. In this first show, we support a women who’s child is experiencing racism from his classmate. The panel share constructive tools and support with some powerful suggestions for counter racist parenting. Click the pic to get the details.


Counter Racist Parenting


In the second show, we talk about the horrific fire at Grenfell Tower in London. Listen by clicking the pic below.

Grenfall Tower Session.


My First Guest Blog Post

Greeting family,

This is a Yard of Greatness milestone! I am so humbled to have my first guest blog post published on Dr Stacey Patton’s website.  A feisty US journalist, who is an unapologetic advocate for black children who have experienced abuse from their parents.  There is also a podcast to accompany the post which has more details. Its a tough read, but a necessary one for our healing.

Be empowered!

3 Reasons Why Black Folks Still Justify Whupping Our Kids

TBS16: Compassionate Parenting And The 3 Truths Behind Why We Still Whup Our Children.


In today’s show, I share 3 reasons why we still justify beating our children. I also reveal how compassionate parenting can help us stop. Details of the show includes:

Why I was scared to become a parent.
How and why we disconnect from our bodies.
Why we can’t admit that our parents were abusive.
Whupping black children is white supremacy on auto pilot.
Recovery, therapy and compassionate parenting.
 Enjoy x

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Links, books and authors mentioned in this episode:

Dr Stacey Patton’s Website

Spare the kids.

Previous podcasts.

Racism and recovery for beginners

Attachment and the family.

Codependency and detaching with love. 

You can find lots of literature about racial wellness, addiction, and the 12 step recovery process in the link below in the recovery/addiction category:


#racialsobriety #theblacksteps #recovery #sobriety #racism #whitesupremacy #blackempowerment #blackgirlmagic  #racialintimacy  #thetwelvesteps


TBS13: Codependency and Detaching With Love.


In this episode, I share on the subject of codependency, which is the destructive form of self abandonment we adopt in response to living under the system of racism (white supremacy). Details of the show are as follows:

What is racial codependency within the system of white supremacy?

What is codependency in relationships?

The codependency 12 step recovery fellowship.

The characteristics and behavior patterns of codependency.


-Low self esteem




The power of detachment with love.

Enjoy x

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If you have any feedback, comments or questions ask me here.

If you would like to work with me you can find out more here.


Links, books and authors mentioned in this episode:

Last weeks episode on the 9 narcissistic traits of white supremacy.
Is racism a mental illness?


The codependency 12 step recovery fellowship.


The CODA Fellowship Big Book


Further suggested reading on codependency.

You can find lots of literature about racial wellness, addiction, and the 12 step recovery process in the link below in the recovery/addiction category:


#racialsobriety #theblacksteps #recovery #sobriety #racism #whitesupremacy #blackempowerment #blackgirlmagic #racialintimacy #thetwelvesteps