What is Racial Intimacy?

Greetings Family,

I hope you are having an amazing, constructive week!

Today’s topic in the FAQ series is at the core of what it really means to love ourselves, and each other. Understanding and embracing racial intimacy, empowers us to stand in the truth of who we are without apology!

Rise!

Your Sista in service,

June x

 

Did you know?  I now have a new online program called,

‘How I Reclaimed my blackness, from self hate to self love.’

The program is a step by step empowerment guide to help you understand the impact of racism on your life. You’ll also be given compassionate tools to build your own daily racial wellness rituals.

Click here to get your copy.

 

 

 

 

My First Guest Blog Post

Greeting family,

This is a Yard of Greatness milestone! I am so humbled to have my first guest blog post published on Dr Stacey Patton’s website.  A feisty US journalist, who is an unapologetic advocate for black children who have experienced abuse from their parents.  There is also a podcast to accompany the post which has more details. Its a tough read, but a necessary one for our healing.

Be empowered!

3 Reasons Why Black Folks Still Justify Whupping Our Kids

TBS15: Recovery Step 3 – Are White People Your Higher Power?

 

Greetings family,

In this show, I explore how the image of white Jesus and the religion of white supremacy (Christianity) maintains a spiritually abusive power dynamic where white people have become our Higher Power.

In 12 step recovery, step 3 is when we, ‘Made the decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understand it.’ As religion is one of the key areas of oppressive people activity under the system of white supremacy, I also share my experience, hope and tools for dealing with this abusive religious enmeshment. Details for this show include:

  • The concept of God.
  • The role of white supremacy in religion.
  • Slavery, Christianity and the black church.
  • White Jesus and spiritual abuse.
  • Recovery Step 3.
  • When white people were my Higher Power.
  • The dismantling and reconstruction process.
  • Setting spiritual boundaries.

Enjoy x

Don’t miss the next episode!

References in this episode:

Maat

Amun Ra

 

Further Reading.

Black People in the Bible – Randolph Jackson

The Color of Christ: The Son of God and the Saga of Race in America – Paul Harvey.

If you have any feedback, comments or questions ask me here.

If you would like to work with me you can find out more here.

#racialsobriety #theblacksteps #recovery #sobriety #racism #whitesupremacy #blackempowerment #blackgirlmagic  #racialintimacy  #thetwelvesteps

TBS13: Codependency and Detaching With Love.

 

In this episode, I share on the subject of codependency, which is the destructive form of self abandonment we adopt in response to living under the system of racism (white supremacy). Details of the show are as follows:

What is racial codependency within the system of white supremacy?

What is codependency in relationships?

The codependency 12 step recovery fellowship.

The characteristics and behavior patterns of codependency.

-Denial

-Low self esteem

-Complience

-Control

-Avoidance

The power of detachment with love.

Enjoy x

Don’t miss an episode!

 

 

If you have any feedback, comments or questions ask me here.

If you would like to work with me you can find out more here.

 

Links, books and authors mentioned in this episode:

Last weeks episode on the 9 narcissistic traits of white supremacy.
Is racism a mental illness?

 

The codependency 12 step recovery fellowship.

www.coda.org

The CODA Fellowship Big Book

 

Further suggested reading on codependency.


You can find lots of literature about racial wellness, addiction, and the 12 step recovery process in the link below in the recovery/addiction category:

www.yardofgreatnessstore.com

#racialsobriety #theblacksteps #recovery #sobriety #racism #whitesupremacy #blackempowerment #blackgirlmagic #racialintimacy #thetwelvesteps

TBS10: 3 Ways To Practice Revolutionary Self Compassion.

Greetings Family,

In this episode, I share 3 empowering ways to practice revolutionary self compassion. Details discussed are as follows:

  • What is self compassion?
  • Why does it matter? 
  • Why is it hard for us to practice self compassion? 
  • How racism, (white supremacy) feeds our self abandonment. 
  • Racist projection 
  • Amos Wilson defines projection
  • The 3 tools for practicing self compassion 

1/ Under scheduling 

2/ Slowing down 

3/ Showing up 

  •  Vocal self soothing 
  • The power of touch 

My story of self compassion and black men. 

The benefits of practicing self compassion .

Affirmations. 

Enjoy x

If you have any feedback, comments or questions ask me here.

If you would like to work with me you can find out more here.

Links, books and authors mentioned in this episode:

Amos Wilson Books

 

Audre Lorde

You can find lots of literature from black scholars, racial wellness, addiction, and the 12 step recovery process in the link below in the recovery/addiction category:

http://www.yardofgreatnessstore.com

#racialsobriety #theblacksteps #recovery #sobriety #racism #blackmen #selfcompassion #white supremacy #blackpeopleinrecovery

YOG03: 3 Ways to Nurture Your Relationships Over The Holidays.

https://bumpers.fm/e/b1dh1r6v4uo002qaf0c0

 

Greetings Mindful Yardie’s

One of the most delicious things I adore learning is the powerful art of building relationships. When we lack self awareness, sometimes our connections can be a painful cycle of defensive reactions. However, as we learn more about ourselves, we can respond and nurture our relationships with a lot more emotional intimacy, awareness and clarity.

In today’s show I’m sharing 3 powerful ways to nurture your relationships today and beyond 2017. This holiday break is a great opportunity to begin nourishing the people and community that means so much to us.

Happy Holidays!

Enjoy x.

June

Need Some Counter Racist Self Care?

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Just a quick one, I had another great session tonight on the C.O.W.S. radio programme (Concept of White Supremacy) with Gus T. Renegade. This week, we talked about the global influence of Donald Trump being elected as the new president of the USA.  As Trump and the juggernaut of racism continues to bulldoze its way through our black minds and bodies, we need to take care of ourselves more than ever so we are better equipped to practice constructive counter-racist behavior.  I have revised my ebook on managing racial stress which includes tools on how to understand your emotions, managing black rage etc. You can now download free here. I’ll upload the COWS radio show replay in the next few days.
In the meantime, love on that Melanin!
Till next time.
June

48th Birthday Joy and Secrets!

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It’s my birthday today!!! Yay! My blackalicious, melanoid magnificent, 48th earthday! Yes, I did say 48, and yes, I know my melanin is on fleek and I don’t look my age! #mytoyboydaysareover lmao! Ok, ok, laughing aside on a serious note, I’m incredibly grateful for another colossal year of growth, opportunity, and abundance. Whilst i’ve experienced some incredibly painful shifts in my personal life and as I’ve built this business, the experiences have seeded some rich layers of vulnerability and strength which have allowed me to connect with my delicious little plantain (Zuri), and my community at a much deeper level.

I just want to have some fun with ya’ll today, so I’m doing a little personal Q & A which you may find interesting or scroll on past. Either way, it’s my birthday so I’m going to be talking about myself for a change, tee heee. That was my professional cue to start talking about the importance of self love, etc but no. Today, I’m feeling very cheeky so I’m just going to bomb some random questions and answers to amuse myself and entertain you for a few mins. 🙂

I will run from….
Cockroaches! When I was 7, I went to Jamaica with my dad. At my grandmas house, there was an outdoor toilet in the yard. The seat was a plank of wood with a hole cut into it, but as I sat down to do my business, I felt something touching my bottom. When I stood up and looked to see what it was, the inside was crawling with cockroaches. I ran screaming from toilet and from that day, I just can’t..

My funniest parenting moment is…..
On Sunday’s I like to do a Jamaican soul food roast dinner with rice and peas, plaintain, apple crumble etc (yes, I know crumble is British before you message me!). Anyway, this one Sunday I wasn’t feeling well, so the dinner was basic and stripped of the cultural elements with the peas etc. When I served it up, my daughter gave me her disappointed screw face, and proceeded to tell me that the dinner was ‘white’. I’m still cracking up as I’m writing this!

A secret folks don’t know about me is…..
I’m actually an introvert! It’s still a struggle for me at times to be visible and connect with people, but I’m challenging myself daily to take bigger emotional risks. I am currently working on some podcasts and would love to do some public speaking in the future. I’m starting to get asked to do this kind of work a lot more recently so watch this space!

My 15 mins of fame is……
I worked as a professional model for 5 years and loved it! I had the opportunity to travel, do catwalk, magazines and music videos. It was an awesome experience, but what I also learned is that external validation is temporary and self esteem can only be built from the inside. That said, it’s still really cool looking back at my 15 mins. Recognise anyone?

I am most proud of……
My recovery journey hands down. Most of my past relationships were addictive, codependent and very destructive, but as I worked through the layers of shame, denial and rage, I found and rebuilt my broken self. In finding the courage to now practice racial intimacy, not only do I have more self esteem, but I am able to connect with my daughter and others in a way I never thought possible.

I got into this work because…….
As a third generation Jamaican slave descendant (born raised in the UK), I inherited an inter generational pathology of unexpressed, recycled trauma. After I passed my Psychotherapy foundation year, I hit another rock bottom after writing my dissertation which explored the consequences of slavery, attachment and intimacy in my life. Whilst the paper gifted me with a distinction, I was overwhelmed with the reality of how much racial trauma was still destroying my life and those I love. My rage at white supremacy and the pain of feeling powerless is what got me started.

What drives me is…….
Every time I feel like I want to give up, my daughters delicious brown face reminds me of what needs to be done. Seeing her grow, learn and thrive is what drives me. When I crawl through the grief layers of leaving those still committed to acting out their pain, I remember the importance of service, compassion and wisdom. I must pay my sobriety forward to those who want it and stop torturing myself trying to rescue those I think need it. What motivates me, is seeing the benefits of teaching counter racist behavior and practicing racial intimacy. What drives me is seeing my people win!

My shero is……
Dr Francis Cress-Welsing. A third generation physician who devoted her life to understanding the system racism (white supremacy ) through her book The Isis Papers. My work is about honouring her theories and building a safe platform around it for people to understand and process the difficult feelings which accompany living inside this abusive system. I hear alot of people saying that the answer to our liberation is self knowledge through studying our history, many say that it’s economic empowerment. These are valid pieces to the puzzle, but I believe our authentic freedom begins with facing AND feeling the truth of our traumatised history. We must find the courage to process the loss of our blackness, so we can rebuild our self esteem which will in turn nurture our communities at a deep level as a natural consequence.

I am now working on……..
The Isis Papers book study course which will be released in 2017. I can’t wait to share it with you. Register for updates at www.theisispapersbookclub.com

My vision is……
Black people have absorbed so much racial pain over the years, that our very blackness has become the trigger that disconnects us. My vision is to build something that will help us find each again and love fearlessly the way RA intended in the beginning.

Thank you for sharing my birthday and being part of my journey. Please pray for me as grow and continue to live in my purpose. I pray that you will also find the courage to become an active part of the movement for our healing through emotional empowerment, racial sobriety and fearless change to produce justice in our communities.

Enjoy the rest of your weekend!

Till next time, your Sista in truth,

June xx

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