YOG29: The 7 Keys to Black Empowerment: #2 Use Your Tools.

Many of us are not taught emotional literacy in our families because survival is the default way of being. Feelings are not allowed so you deny, suppress, numb out and react whenever you feel unsafe.

Emotional sobriety is our ability to feel and cope with our emotions. This helps us to respond instead of reacting to our environment. When we’re sober we can make better choices for ourselves, our family and community.

In order to achieve emotional sobriety, you need to use the appropriate tools to honor your feelings and shift the energy to create change instead of feeling enslaved inside their intensity.

In today’s podcast I share the 2nd Key to Black Empowerment, Use The Tools. I share more about the power of emotional sobriety and my 3 step system with tools to empower yourself psychologically.

Links mentioned in this episode.

The 7 Keys to Black Empowerment: #1 Truth

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Self – Intimacy

Recycled racial pain means that intimacy is often confused with self abandonment, smothering and chronic care taking.

You co-dependently cram your emotional space with the needs of others in order to belong, connect and feel ‘loved.’

When this becomes a default pattern in your life, being seen then becomes a painful trigger for shame and isolation from those you love.

In recovery,  we learn that self intimacy must proceed relational intimacy. We use patience, kindness and self reflection to take the tender journey back to ourselves.

When you master the art of self intimacy, the whole world becomes your lover.

This connection is nurtured by your ability to explore, reflect and ride the journey of being human.

As you surrender to the process of discovery, you’ll move from avoiding intimacy with isolation, to honoring your divinity in solitude.

Today, I will remember that I don’t have to give up my identity to be intimate.

Affirmation: Authentic intimacy with another begins with….. in/to/me/see.

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Till next time

June x

How to Maintain Hope

Greetings Family,

How do you maintain a sense of hope inside the insanity of racism (white supremacy) ?

Today, I share about the power of hope when we’re willing to go to any lengths to heal.

The episode includes.

  • The hope formula
  • The joy of blackness
  • Lovin’ on our melanin magic.
  • Let it begin with me.

I also have a surprise guest on today’s show!

Be empowered!

With Blackalicious love.

June x

What is Racial Intimacy?

Greetings Family,

I hope you are having an amazing, constructive week!

Today’s topic in the FAQ series is at the core of what it really means to love ourselves, and each other. Understanding and embracing racial intimacy, empowers us to stand in the truth of who we are without apology!


Your Sista in service,

June x


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‘How I Reclaimed my blackness, from self hate to self love.’

The program is a step by step empowerment guide to help you understand the impact of racism on your life. You’ll also be given compassionate tools to build your own daily racial wellness rituals.

Click here to get your copy.





My First Guest Blog Post

Greeting family,

This is a Yard of Greatness milestone! I am so humbled to have my first guest blog post published on Dr Stacey Patton’s website.  A feisty US journalist, who is an unapologetic advocate for black children who have experienced abuse from their parents.  There is also a podcast to accompany the post which has more details. Its a tough read, but a necessary one for our healing.

Be empowered!

3 Reasons Why Black Folks Still Justify Whupping Our Kids

TBS15: Recovery Step 3 – Are White People Your Higher Power?


Greetings family,

In this show, I explore how the image of white Jesus and the religion of white supremacy (Christianity) maintains a spiritually abusive power dynamic where white people have become our Higher Power.

In 12 step recovery, step 3 is when we, ‘Made the decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understand it.’ As religion is one of the key areas of oppressive people activity under the system of white supremacy, I also share my experience, hope and tools for dealing with this abusive religious enmeshment. Details for this show include:

  • The concept of God.
  • The role of white supremacy in religion.
  • Slavery, Christianity and the black church.
  • White Jesus and spiritual abuse.
  • Recovery Step 3.
  • When white people were my Higher Power.
  • The dismantling and reconstruction process.
  • Setting spiritual boundaries.

Enjoy x

Don’t miss the next episode!

References in this episode:


Amun Ra


Further Reading.

Black People in the Bible – Randolph Jackson

The Color of Christ: The Son of God and the Saga of Race in America – Paul Harvey.

If you have any feedback, comments or questions ask me here.

If you would like to work with me you can find out more here.

#racialsobriety #theblacksteps #recovery #sobriety #racism #whitesupremacy #blackempowerment #blackgirlmagic  #racialintimacy  #thetwelvesteps

TBS13: Codependency and Detaching With Love.


In this episode, I share on the subject of codependency, which is the destructive form of self abandonment we adopt in response to living under the system of racism (white supremacy). Details of the show are as follows:

What is racial codependency within the system of white supremacy?

What is codependency in relationships?

The codependency 12 step recovery fellowship.

The characteristics and behavior patterns of codependency.


-Low self esteem




The power of detachment with love.

Enjoy x

Don’t miss an episode!



If you have any feedback, comments or questions ask me here.

If you would like to work with me you can find out more here.


Links, books and authors mentioned in this episode:

Last weeks episode on the 9 narcissistic traits of white supremacy.
Is racism a mental illness?


The codependency 12 step recovery fellowship.


The CODA Fellowship Big Book


Further suggested reading on codependency.

You can find lots of literature about racial wellness, addiction, and the 12 step recovery process in the link below in the recovery/addiction category:


#racialsobriety #theblacksteps #recovery #sobriety #racism #whitesupremacy #blackempowerment #blackgirlmagic #racialintimacy #thetwelvesteps

TBS10: 3 Ways To Practice Revolutionary Self Compassion.

Greetings Family,

In this episode, I share 3 empowering ways to practice revolutionary self compassion. Details discussed are as follows:

  • What is self compassion?
  • Why does it matter? 
  • Why is it hard for us to practice self compassion? 
  • How racism, (white supremacy) feeds our self abandonment. 
  • Racist projection 
  • Amos Wilson defines projection
  • The 3 tools for practicing self compassion 

1/ Under scheduling 

2/ Slowing down 

3/ Showing up 

  •  Vocal self soothing 
  • The power of touch 

My story of self compassion and black men. 

The benefits of practicing self compassion .


Enjoy x

If you have any feedback, comments or questions ask me here.

If you would like to work with me you can find out more here.

Links, books and authors mentioned in this episode:

Amos Wilson Books


Audre Lorde

You can find lots of literature from black scholars, racial wellness, addiction, and the 12 step recovery process in the link below in the recovery/addiction category:


#racialsobriety #theblacksteps #recovery #sobriety #racism #blackmen #selfcompassion #white supremacy #blackpeopleinrecovery

YOG03: 3 Ways to Nurture Your Relationships Over The Holidays.



Greetings Mindful Yardie’s

One of the most delicious things I adore learning is the powerful art of building relationships. When we lack self awareness, sometimes our connections can be a painful cycle of defensive reactions. However, as we learn more about ourselves, we can respond and nurture our relationships with a lot more emotional intimacy, awareness and clarity.

In today’s show I’m sharing 3 powerful ways to nurture your relationships today and beyond 2017. This holiday break is a great opportunity to begin nourishing the people and community that means so much to us.

Happy Holidays!

Enjoy x.