Every time I get dressed, my inner critic laughs at my lockdown love handles, shaming me about what others would say if they saw me naked. When she pipes up, I say STFU and feel gratitude for the extra curves that kept me alive through this pandemic the racial stress and sadness of loosing my dad. With […]
Author: June Allen
You are not alone
Early December is often filled with the busyness of Christmas. Spending money, expectations and gatherings build an emotional crescendo before falling into the stillness at the end of the month with endless TV, left overs and reflections of the year with those we love. Sometimes, this season is a painful reminder of those we’ve lost […]
Expansion
When we’re raised in environments that don’t allow us the space to grow, we unconsciously adapt our behaviour to suit the external demands. This can also happen in healing where tools which worked for us at one time are now blocking our expansion. Greatness requires us to not get complacent about our journey, no matter how […]
5 Signs you’re ready to start the healing process.
‘How do I know when I’m ready start the healing process?’ Sometimes we can be so wrapped up in getting through each day that we don’t recognise when it’s time to start being more intentional about our healing process. If you’ve been in the game a while, some of these things my be your Higher […]
What is emotional safety for black women?
After quite an emotional week last week I felt so grateful for my support network who were able to hold me through the melt down. With so many of the women I work with feeling grateful for the space I hold for them to be vulnerable, I want to share my take on what is […]
Relationship Crumbs?
When pain is a standard part of growing up, it makes sense why so many of us adapted by being need less and want less. Our care givers may say they loved us, yet failed time and time again to consider our needs. Under the system of racism, there’s no room for emotional nourishment. […]
Birthday Truth.
Birthdays can be bitter sweet as you get older because the celebration of another year is also a reminder of the relationship losses and regret around the things that have not manifested or worked out. Last Friday was my 52 birthday and I work up with so much sadness from being in lockdown and isolated from those […]
What does, ‘doing the healing work’ actually mean?
In this weeks live I want to talk to you about what doing the healing work actually means. We often hear the phrase thrown around on the wellness circuit, but does it actually mean in practical terms? It means telling the truth, firstly to ourselves. Asking for help in spaces that understand racism as a […]
Know Thyself.
To know thyself is to honor our inner world. It’s falling in love with ourselves at the deepest, richest level. In homes where pain is the head of the household, knowledge is forbidden. In a system which demands our silence, intimacy is fused with abuse. With knowledge comes the wisdom of emotional sobriety and saying no brings the […]
How to deal with lockdown and election anxiety.
With the UK going into lockdown again today and the results of the election about to be revealed, I’m hearing a lot of you talking about anxiety. Yesterday, I caught myself in compulsive overworking mode and when I eventually crawled into bed I paused to check in with myself to get present to what was […]