When we’ve been hurt by those who were supposed to take care of us, we internalise the hurt as a reflection of our unworthiness. We tell ourselves we’re unlovable because the other person chose to behave in an unacceptable way. Over time, many of us become so caught up in the wounds of what was done […]
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The Law of Worthiness.
The law of worthiness means that we can be empowered when we stop craving the dysfunctional approval of whiteness. We don’t have to sell out our divine joy and melanin magic in order to feel safe. The healing process gives us permission to let go of the lies we believe about ourselves as we think, […]
Self Hate Healing Hack!
After years of not liking ourselves it can often be hard to set boundaries as part of our new commitment to self love. One of the things that gives me so much joy is seeing how the Sacred Sistas in the mastermind have grown from using the community to practice and share what I call ’emotional book ending.’ […]
Re-framing Self Doubt.
#juneslovenotes Self doubt came up in the mastermind last week which can be debilitating if allowed to fester and sabotage our efforts. This is something that creeps up on me from time to time, especially when I’m trying new things so today, I want to share some reflections around how to reframe it. Under the […]
‘Booty Call’ Healing.
#juneslovenotes Last week I wrote a post about empowering business owners to rethink their ‘booty call’ marketing. They show up when they want to sell something and expect their audience to ‘put out’ on demand. So many people identified with this lack of building any relationship but it also got me thinking about the same […]
The Mother Wound Part 2: Goddesses of The Round Table.
In this second round of the mother wound discussion, we share solutions for healing: How to deal with attachment issues: Exploring language: Self Forgiveness : Heart Work and Yoga Healing tools. Mothers can you identify the old wounds being passed to your children?
Responding V Reacting.
#juneslovenotes One of the most powerful signs that we’re on the road to wholeness is our ability to respond verses react. Reactions happen as unconscious knee jerk defenses which often rebound in our community through the shaming, ‘stop being so emotional’ conversation. In recovery we use the term, ‘if you’re hysterical, it’s historical,’ this means […]
Black Business Marketing ‘Ted Talk’.
Dear Black Businesses, This current climate is an amazing opportunity to serve the community if you are willing to do the work. Just to be clear although I am frustrated, I want you to win so I’m sharing this with love. For the love of Black baby Jesus please stop shaming other black folks for […]
To See and Be Seen.
Most mornings I try to connect with Da Plantain (my daughter’s nickname) by having a family check in, but the last few days have been a bit hit and miss. Today, we focused on the feelings and needs chart I created to help with self awareness and emotional literacy. She looked through the feelings list […]
The Power of Black Sistahood
In these times of intense stress, it’s easy to get trapped in compulsive problem solving. Our survival energy is ramped up so we use it’s charge for intense busyness to release anxiety and feelings of powerlessness. When I began creating the mastermind, I was obsessed with making sure there was lots of rich content with tools […]