UNDERSTANDING RACISM (WHITE SUPREMACY)

What is Racial Gaslighting?

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I have been feeling really angry the last couple of days and after a mammoth yoga session and some reflection I now know why. With all the stuff I am seeing about #harryandmeghan and so many white people denying racism is part of it, I thought this would help those of you that are also tired.

Racial gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse where white supremacists (consciously and unconsciously) seek to maintain power and control through manipulation and bullying of non-white people. This is acted out through sowing doubt around the definition, experience and impact of racism (white supremacy) with an individual or as a group, making it difficult for them to trust their instincts, feelings and core sense of self.

Examples include, pretending not to see or understand racism, refusing to listen to those impacted by racism,  minimizing our experience and the traumatic impact of racism. Verbal examples include:

‘It’s not that bad.’

‘Not everything is about race’

‘That happened along time ago’

‘There’s only one human race.’

 ‘You’re imagining things’

‘You’re to sensitive.’

‘ Why are you always so angry?’

‘ You have a chip on your shoulder’

This list goes on and on, I’m sure you have others. When your ability to trust yourself has been broken down, you are more likely to experience shame and put up with this type of abuse. Tools for wellness include setting verbal boundaries around what and who you choose to talk about racism with, then focus on taking care of yourself with these 3 principles of racial wellness.

1.Release. Racial stress can leave you feeling angry and frustrated so use physical activities on a daily basis to transform the trapped energy and emotion inside the body.

2.Reflect. Self-reflection is a crucial part of emotional literacy so schedule quiet time to observe and understand your feelings and reactions to the events. Use safe spaces in therapy, recovery and support groups to reduce isolation, shame and miseducation.

3.Renew. Use self-soothing behaviors and cultural nourishment to reset the balance and maintain your sense of self. No matter how small, these are powerful revolutionary acts inside a system that feeds your self hate.

You deserve peace so take the time to make these rituals part of your daily practice.

How to Heal With Black Women When You Were Bullied By Them.

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Many of us understand that black self hate and colorism is a huge issue in our community, but many do not understand it’s complexity and how it manifests inside our relationships. In today’s session, I answer a question from a biracial sista who wants to heal with black women, is doing the work, but finds it very triggering because she was bullied by black women. In this podcast I share:

The origins of colorism and sista pain.

How this fear impacts your relationship with self, parenting and partners.

Racial mindfulness.

How to chose a healing space.

What to do if you feel triggered inside a healing space.

My own journey of learning to love my Sista’s.

Click below to listen.

Book mentioned in this episode.

To attend the book club go to www.sistacircle.juneallen.net

Are You Emancipated and Independent?

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The 1st of August was Emancipation Day and today is the day Jamaica became Independent. Both days mark the so called ‘freedom’ of our ancestors from colonial bondage. As these dates declare our freedom on paper, many of us remain in psychological bondage because we still carry the wounds that were not healed during slavery.
Whilst white supremacy continues to refine itself to maintain power, you also have more opportunities to chose how you respond. Emancipation no longer remains in the hands of those committed to our destruction, but in the way we chose to honor ourselves and our communities.
Are you committed to your pain or your power? Are you willing to do the internal work your ancestors couldn’t?Today, with compassion, patience and courage, I will remember that I have the power to emancipate myself from mental slavery.
Click here for your free mini course, 7 Days of Revolutionary Black Self Love.

Racism is a Spiritual Disease.

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Before attending one of my recovery meetings, I found racist abuse all over it’s poster because it was a closed space for folks who identify as people of color.
Keeping this boundary is an important part of keeping the space safe for members to share their truth and minimise racial codependency (code switching) if white people attended.
At first I felt shock. Although I understand intellectually that I’m a black women living under the system of racism, it’s always painful when I experience it so overtly.
It’s especially hard in the recovery space, where people are there to heal, not to have to deal with more abuse. I shared what happened with the group and went straight into sharing my experience, strength and hope in what was a powerful meeting.
It was only when I returned home that I was really able to reflect on what happened and understood the power of racial sobriety.
Before recovery, racist abuse sent me straight into a shame spiral, doing whatever was necessary to stuff down my feelings, minimise the abuse and keep myself small around white people.
Today, I understand that racism is an addiction to power. A spiritual disease where white supremacists have so much self loathing, that they must act it out through oppressing those who trigger any reminder of their whiteness.
In this moment, I will remember that what others think about my skin tone is none of my business. I do not have to absorb their toxic projections, and have the right to set the appropriate boundaries that will keep me safe.
I am a precious child of God, deserving of all things good, abundant and peaceful.
And so it is.
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If you’ve experienced racism in the recovery rooms, you can download my free masterclass at www.sobriety.juneallen.net

YOG32: The 7 Keys To Black Empowerment: #5 Setting Boundaries

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Greetings Fam,

We’re continuing our conversation to find the 7 Keys To Black Empowerment. The 5th key is all about setting boundaries. If you don’t know what does and doesn’t work for you, you make yourself vulnerable to abuse.

In this session I explores the difference between social, external and internal  boundaries. I also share how practicing them must be the foundation for our emotional emancipation and personal empowerment!

Enjoy!

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Healing from racism through personal empowerment and the 12 steps of recovery.

 

YOG30: The 7 Keys to Black Empowerment: #3 Understand Racism.

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Greetings Fam,

Today, I’m continuing our conversation about the 7 keys to black empowerment. The 3rd key is to study our enemy. In order heal, we must understand racism. This session will teach you WHAT racism is through the work of Mr Neely Fuller, and WHY racism is here through the work of Dr Francis Cress Welsing.

Be empowered!

 

Books mentioned in this episode:

Mr Neely Fuller: www.producejustice.com

Dr Welsing: The Isis Papers

6 week mastermind for wounded daughters: Join the waiting list at www.daughters.juneallen.net

 

Recovery Step 1 Reflections.

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It’s one thing to know that we live under the system of racism, and another to consciously feel it’s devastating impact on our lives.

White fear of genetic annihilation has made us prisoners of war inside our black skin. The longer we swallow our oppression, the more unmanageable our lives have become.

When we affirm the power to change our lives through the steps, we challenge the core parts of ourselves still bleeding from internalised self hate.

In Step 1, we admit that we are powerless over those who practice white supremacy. We surrender to the truth and let go of our compulsive need to escape the vulnerability of our blackness.

As we use the tools and peel back the layers of confusion, we experience a new hope and begin to find the courage to show up in our regal divinity.

In this moment, I will honor that I am alive. I can find the way home to my blacknificance, by asking for help from those who have walked the path before me.

Affirmation: I choose to live in the light. I am worthy of healing.

 

Till next time,

With Blackalicious love.

June x

YOG27: The Power of Black Mindfulness with Faith Agugu.

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Greetings Family,
With the hustle and bustle of the holidays along the juggernaut of white supremacy, it’s important to be able to stay present to what is going on internally.
This week, I’m happy to be sharing the podcast space with Faith Agugu. A compassionate, holistic counselor and healer who’s generous with her wisdom on how to use mindfulness as a ‘secret weapon’ for wellness and personal empowerment.
We also chat about the white washing of mindfulness, the spirituality of melanin, loving your inner child, recovery and so much more! There are so many nuggets in this one, don’t miss it!
Enjoy!

Links mentioned in this episode.
You can reach Faith here:
Book the workshop or 1 on 1 session :
Meditations:
Any other questions or comments, email June at info@yardofgreatness.com

Give yourself the gift of empowerment.

Need a Safe Black Healing Space?

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Hey Fam,

After publishing the recent podcast about loosing my brother to addiction, I received some powerful responses about how it moved and motivated you to get sober. There was also talk of struggles with experiencing racism in the recovery rooms.

With December and the holidays upon us, it’s also a very triggering time for those of us raised in abusive, addictive families. This means that our need for support and a sense of belonging is even more important.

The kickback around having safe black spaces has always had its challenges because white supremacy will often shame us into believing we’re practicing ‘reverse racism’.

We need a safe space to address our cultural needs without the gaze of white fragility. No one ever questions men or women only groups that want to explore gender, so this is of course another racist hurdle we have to deal with.

Many of us are so worn down by the pressure to conform, that we end up in inappropriate kumbayah spaces where our needs are ignored, and our historical wounds continue to bleed.

I promised my brother that I would stay committed to my own recovery and serve you by sharing ways to emancipate yourself through personal empowerment and racial sobriety beyond the 12 steps. You deserve the right to enjoy this planet without fear.

That said, if I created a space online for us to have some honest, solution focused conversations about internalised racism, recovery and empowerment would that be of interest to you?

If yes, sign up below on the wait list to register your interest.

www.community.juneallen.net

 

Till next time,

With Blackalicious love.

June

 

 

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YOG25: 15 Reasons Why Black Self Love is Important.

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Greetings Family,

I’m so happy to be hearing a lot more Sista’s talking about practicing black self love. It means that a lot more of us are being vocal about our vulnerabilities, and the need to take better care of ourselves.

I don’t want the concept of self care to just become the latest buzz word or that it’s just all about essential oils and taking extra naps, so today, I’m using the show to share 15 powerful reasons WHY black self love is an important revolutionary practice that we should be smashing the sh*t out of. Every. Single. Day!

When we take this stuff on like a beast, we can strangle our internalised racist and dismantle the external system of white supremacy at the same time!

Dive in! Enjoy! Execute!

With Blackalicious Love

June x

 

 

Healing From Racism Through Personal Empowerment and Racial Sobriety.