Author: June Allen
Birthday Truth.
What does, ‘doing the healing work’ actually mean?
In this weeks live I want to talk to you about what doing the healing work actually means. We often hear the phrase thrown around on the wellness circuit, but does it actually mean in practical terms?
- It means telling the truth, firstly to ourselves.
- Asking for help in spaces that understand racism as a system and are culturally competent.
- Staying willing to trust the process, letting go of the outcome and taking the baby steps needed to move forward.
Know Thyself.
To know thyself is to honor our inner world. It’s falling in love with ourselves at the deepest, richest level.
In homes where pain is the head of the household, knowledge is forbidden. In a system which demands our silence, intimacy is fused with abuse.
With knowledge comes the wisdom of emotional sobriety and saying no brings the precious gift of serenity.
Freedom to think, seeds the freedom to feel. Freedom to feel brings the fearless change that liberates us from the strain of under-being.
In healing, as we release the lies we believe about ourselves, we close the gap between who we think we are, and who we really want to be.
In this moment I will remember that authentic intimacy with others must begin with divine intimacy with the self. When I dare to embrace my greatness, I also light the path for others to do the same.
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How to deal with lockdown and election anxiety.
With the UK going into lockdown again today and the results of the election about to be revealed, I’m hearing a lot of you talking about anxiety. Yesterday, I caught myself in compulsive overworking mode and when I eventually crawled into bed I paused to check in with myself to get present to what was really going on. I’ve learned over the years that underneath anxiety was my body’s way of warning me that something (or someone) feels unsafe or a boundary has been crossed.
With parenting, studying, holding space for others and doing some trauma work, I’d let my own self care slip. Sometimes we can be so focused on trying to deal with the anxiety that we miss the message it’s trying to bring us underneath it. The election has revealed the increase in people voting for someone who’s been blatant about his white supremacist views. The lockdown is a reminder of how black and brown folks are more vulnerable around COVID with no support from the government around how this is being addressed.
Whilst I had not been thinking about how these things impact me personally, my anxiety was a reminder that I need to check in with myself and do this work. In this session, I’m going to share how I deal with anxiety and how it can be your ally in this current climate.
The Tests of Sistahood.
This session was another fire experience where the goddesses of the round table explore the challenging of sister relationships. We talk about boundaries, jealousy, how to get more support from your community and so much more. Enjoy!
100 Great Black Britons with Dr Angelina Osborne.
It’s Black History Month here in the UK in October and I’m thrilled to be chatting with the amazing Dr. Angelina Osborne about the badass, black British women in her new best selling book 100 Great Black Britons. Enjoy!
My Judi Love BBC London Chat : How to deal with regret.
One Friday, I’m minding my business and someone popped into my Instagram DM’s to ask if I was available to do an interview with Judi Love!!!! Yaaaassss Judi Love! I was already a huge fan of her work and her lockdown Quarentine date night had me in stiches on many a corona evening!
Anyway, so I’m super excited to be asked to be part of her conversation about how to deal with regret. Click here to listen.
The 5 Principles of Rest.
When we think of the topic of rest we automatically go to our sleep habits but rest is so much bigger than that. With rest at the focus in the Sacred Sista Sanctuary this month, today I share the 5 principles to get you started and keep you grounded in a solid rest practice.
One of our most basic human needs for wellness is rest. Healing happens when we practice these 5 principles of rest.
AWARENESS: We check in daily with ourselves and listen to the language of our bodies.
HONESTY: We give ourselves permission to tell the truth about our relationship with rest.
DETACHMENT: We let go of the people, places and things that disrupt our need to rest.
BOUNDARIES: We stay focused on setting and keeping our internal boundaries for rest.
SPACE: We create, build and maintain a nurturing plan for rest, play and our relationships.
Watch this live stream for a deeper dive.
How to start healing the black mother wound.
Last week, hearing about Lauren Hill’s daughter Selah talk about her mothers horrific abuse triggered feelings of anger and sadness. What made this situation more painful was Lauren’s response with justification, deflection and self centering. As a survivor, I was also feeling a lot of gratitude for all the pain I’d worked through to break this generational cycle with my own daughter.
This issue obviously triggered a lot heated discussions on social media so I did this live stream sharing how to being healing this deep core wound.