With UK Mothers Day tomorrow, I wanted to have an honest conversation with mothers who want to repair the relationship with their adult daughters. The discussion aims to nurture understanding and empower healing by temporarily setting aside the external issues around oppression to focus on the core relationship dynamics. If you are a mother who […]
Author: June Allen
Colourism, mixed heritage and the mother wound.
Today’s video is just a snippet of the themes I have been working with recently in session with clients of mixed heritage around colorism and the mother wound. I touch on the internalisation of racism from parent, identity confusion, racial shame and the power of mirroring as part of reclaiming the exiled melanated part.
5 Types of Toxic Mothers.
I recently posted some content on social media from the black mother wound series about 5 types of toxic mothers which resonated with so many sistas. So today, I want to share a more expansive exploration about the topic to understand the abusive power dynamics that can exist within mother-daughter relationships. The more you understand, […]
What to expect at the Managing Mothers Day retreat?
In this live stream I share what you can expect from attending the Managing Mother’s Day retreat. The half day in-person experience aims to assist black women in navigating the complexities of Mother’s Day, particularly for those with difficult relationships with their mothers. This retreat provides a safe space to address the challenges and offers […]
Weaponised Forgiveness?
Weaponised forgiveness for wounded daughters is a term used to describe the manipulation of forgiveness as a means to silence victims of harm, particularly daughters who have experienced maternal abuse. This concept is crucial to address as it stagnates our healing and allows the mother to maintain control over her daughter. By understanding the dynamics […]
What is the black mother wound?
In this weeks live, we explore the concept of the “black mother wound” and it’s significance in the black woman’s suffering. Using an intercultural lens means breaking down this theory into three circles. The inner circle focuses on how the wound has impacted the relationship with yourself, the next circle layer will explore the relational power […]
Are you self silencing?
Self-silencing has been coming up a lot in session with my clients this week, and many are beginning to recognise the devastating consequences of this suppression on their mental and physical health. This behaviour has often been learned as a defense mechanism to keep us safe when a relationship or social environment has proved unsafe and […]
Did the holidays bring you out of denial?
Did the holidays drag you out of denial? January can be a tough time if you recently spent time with challenging family members. Any festive fantasies you had before may now be shattered by the harsh reality of the pain you’re in now, feeling confused, ashamed and alone with the powerlessness of their limitations. If […]
Sistahood and your Heart.
With the next Sista Sanctuary session happening on Tuesday evening, I want to give you a sneak peep at some of the heartwork questions we’ll be exploring in this live session. The theme is Unity in Sistahood and in todays live I explore 4 of the questions we’ll do a deeper dive in on Tuesday… Am I giving […]
Umoja (Unity) in sistahood.
My inspiration for today’s live was sparked from one of my favourite influencers, Candice Brathwaite. Candice’s fear and vulnerability during a dentist visit came with unexpected gentleness and care that brought her to tears. This really moved me and brought up reflections on so many of my clients exploring the impact of unmet maternal needs […]