Self love lane.

Sometimes, the stories we tell ourselves are fear based, recycled lies from dysfunction family members and internalised racist thinking. We feel unworthy of love and respect because our black bodies are so used to being the space for others to dump their shit.
In healing, we learn to separate what belongs to us and what we need to give back to others.
Today, I will remember that the dysfunction of others is not mine to fix. I will allow others to have their experience and stay in my self love lane.

How to deal with procrastination.

Mid January is the time that many of us often slack off around the new year promises we made to ourselves so today, I’m talking about 3 simple ways to deal with procrastination.

  1. Underneath procrastination is fear calling for compassion so ask yourself what you’re afraid of and work from there. Share your fear with someone you trust so they can help you though it.
  2. Reviewing your calendar to underschedule and reduce overwhelm will bring a manageable spaciousness to your productivity. 
  3. Break the bigger job into smaller actions.

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Things to consider before setting racial wellness goals.

Are you struggling with clarity or bringing a cultural flavor to your new year wellness commitments? Before diving into any manifesting, goal setting and vision work, it’s always good to pause and think about how the process can be kept simple and clear. These 7 reflections will help to explore your racial wellness needs with more depth to bring your vision to life. 

  • Set your intentions and goals without the expectations of others or social stereotypes. 
  • Change takes time so schedule daily sacred sista space and be patient.
  • Be clear about your personal and cultural values.
  • Choose habits that nurture the desired racial identity. What does she do, eat, read etc? How does she behave?
  • How do you want to feel? Self esteem requires esteemable acts.
  • Manifesting  will not feel good, so explore if the risk and pain is worth it? 
  • Keep it simple and focus on the domino goal that will influence your other goals. Mastering one makes it easier to achieve them in other areas.

3 Essential tools to help you this year.

With the new year off the starting blocks I’m feeling a bit tentative about what’s around the corner.  Do you relate? This COVID mayhem is far from over so I’m keepin it in the day. Also, I’m sharing 3 essential things that helped me stay sane last year (despite all the madness) that will help you this year. Enjoy x

3 Step Trigger Repair #healinghack

Even if you’re not meeting up with family over the holidays, they may still be contact via zoom, phone and text etc. Therefore, its still important to be mindful about your triggers. This week I’m sharing a really simple 3 step process to help you deal with your holiday triggers.

  1. What are you feeling and is it really about the current conversation or something that reminds you of a wound in your past?
  2. What do you need? Maybe it’s being heard, understood or to feel safe.
  3. What must you do? Maybe you just need to remove yourself from the conversation by changing the subject, the company or the environment altogether!

Either way, the main focus must be on what comes alive in you when you communicate and to listen to your gut, needs and how you can restore a sense of emotional safety.

How I Work With Clients.

If you’ve been thinking about working with me but would like more tea on how the process work then this live stream is for you. In this session, I break down a tool I use called the triangle of awareness which explains the 3 core areas which I focus on to unpack your relationship with relationships. The incites gained from the exploration is what will eventually open you up and empower change while I cheer alongside you. Watch!

For more info about how to work with me you can check out the Sacred Sista Mastermind or 121 Soul Sessions.

Letting Go

It takes a lot more energy to hold on than it does to let go, but what does letting go actually mean? Sometimes folks repeat it like a switch you just turn off, but we both know it’s not that easy. What I’ve learned is that there are three things which help us release the things we find more difficult.

Intellectually, we can question what parts of the story belong to us and what belongs to others. Are we bringing issues into the present from the past and do we have unrealistic expectations and fantasies that cannot be fulfilled?

Physically, we can release the charge generated by the negative experience that often gets trapped in the body. Movement in all its forms will release the energy and transform its power.

Emotionally, we can let go by honoring our feelings around the event and tell the truth about it’s impact on our wellbeing. If we can speak this truth to someone safe who will hear you without judgement, the empathy clears a path for solutions to release you from its bondage.

In this moment, I will forgive myself for holding onto suffering. Today, I will give myself permission to let go of the people, places and things that hold me back from standing in my greatness.