YOG24: Wanna Peep Inside the Free Black Self Love Challenge?

Greetings,

I have a FREE challenge that teaches you how to start living your blackalicious life called,

‘7 Days of Revolutionary Black Self Love’

As a result of the great feedback I’ve had from my empowerment community, I’m giving you a sneek peek inside each day of the course! Yaaasss.

I teach about defining black self love, the power of self compassion, finding the courage to change, the transition from self hate to self love, negative thinking and the dysfunctional code of silence keeping us enslaved.

There are also bonuses and opportunities as a new subscriber to buy my signature program

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With blackalicious love

June x

 

Healing From Racism Through Personal Empowerment and Racial Sobriety.

TBS15: Recovery Step 3 – Are White People Your Higher Power?

 

Greetings family,

In this show, I explore how the image of white Jesus and the religion of white supremacy (Christianity) maintains a spiritually abusive power dynamic where white people have become our Higher Power.

In 12 step recovery, step 3 is when we, ‘Made the decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understand it.’ As religion is one of the key areas of oppressive people activity under the system of white supremacy, I also share my experience, hope and tools for dealing with this abusive religious enmeshment. Details for this show include:

  • The concept of God.
  • The role of white supremacy in religion.
  • Slavery, Christianity and the black church.
  • White Jesus and spiritual abuse.
  • Recovery Step 3.
  • When white people were my Higher Power.
  • The dismantling and reconstruction process.
  • Setting spiritual boundaries.

Enjoy x

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Don’t miss the next episode!

References in this episode:

Maat

Amun Ra

 

Further Reading.

Black People in the Bible – Randolph Jackson

The Color of Christ: The Son of God and the Saga of Race in America – Paul Harvey.

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#racialsobriety #theblacksteps #recovery #sobriety #racism #whitesupremacy #blackempowerment #blackgirlmagic  #racialintimacy  #thetwelvesteps

TBS14: Honoring Dr Welsing’s Birthday with Gus T Renegade from C.O.W.S. Radio.

Brothas and Sista’s,

I am so excited for you today because it’s The Black Steps first interview and a legendary one at that!

In this episode, I am humbled to be chatting with Gus T Renegade from C.O.W.S  (Context of White Supremacy) radio show to honor the birthday of the late, great, counter racist scientist, Dr Francis Cress-Welsing. For those of you who are unaware of her and her work, I did a previous episode about her here.

In this show we talk about her legacy, their friendship and women behind the Isis Papers book. I also find out a little more about Gus the black man, and his views on how we can continue to empower ourselves under the system of white supremacy.

There are a lot of notes, books and references which I have captured below.

Enjoy x

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Links, books and authors mentioned in this episode:

Sabrina Johnson COWS radio show appearance.

Dr Welsing birthday tribute event.

Saturday March 18th 2017

Thurgood Marshall Centre

Washington DC

[email protected]

 

RADIO INTERVIEWS.

C.O.W.S radio iTunes link

C.O.W.S episode with Dr Welsing regarding the Charleston Massacre with white supremacist Dylan Roof.

Dr Welsing and the Trump presidency prediction.

Dr Welsing sharing her views on cannabis.

Dr Martin Kevorkian 

All the book references from are in an empowerment sheet. Just enter your email address and get them with all the links to buy directly from Amazon.

 

MUSIC REFERENCES

 

FILM AND TV REFERENCES

www.getoutfilm.com

 

MISC REFERENCES

Black self care e-book for discharging racial stress.

www.theisispapersbookclub.com

12 Step Recovery for beginners.

Mr H fox YouTube channel

 

GUS T RENEGADE ESSAYS.

http://atlantablackstar.com/author/gusrenegade/

wwwRacism-notes.blogspot.com

COWS email address : [email protected]

 

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You can find lots more literature about racial wellness, addiction, and the 12 step recovery process in the link below in the recovery/addiction category:

http://www.yardofgreatnessstore.com

#racialsobriety #theblacksteps #recovery #sobriety #racism #whitesupremacy #blackempowerment #blackgirlmagic  #racialintimacy  #thetwelvesteps

TBS12: Is Racism A Mental Illness?

Greetings Family,

In today’s show, I explore racism and narcissism as it relates to the 9 diagnostic traits in European psychology. Details of the content are as follows:

Why I want to explore the link between racism and narcissism.

The 9 diagnostic psychotherapy traits of narcissism.

5 summarised narcissistic characteristics of white supremacy.

1: The constant need for admiration.

-The brainwashing in education.

-The super hero media fantasy.

-Narcissistic supply and withdrawal.

2: Grandiosity.

– White superiority.

– 1974 Interview with Dr Francis Cress-Welsing and Dr William Shockley about white supremacy and her 1969 theory of colour confrontation.

3: Lack of empathy

– Defining empathy.

– Jane Elliot exposes white denial.

– The pain of white silence.

– 3 types of white supremacist.

4: Take advantage of others.

– Economic disadvantages and power.

5: Being envious of others.

– Love the culture, hate the people.

What’s the solution?

Empowerment affirmations.

 

 

Don’t Miss an Episode!

 

Click here to listen to this weeks session.

If you have any feedback, comments or questions ask me here.

If you would like to work with me you can find out more here.

Links, books and authors mentioned in this episode:

9 diagnostic traits of narcissism.

The black Statue of Liberty

The amazing, eye opening, full interview with Dr Welsing and Dr Shockley.

Dr Welsing’s book The Isis Papers

The Help

 

Jane Elliot

You can find lots of literature about racial wellness, addiction, and the 12 step recovery process in the link below in the recovery/addiction category:

http://www.yardofgreatnessstore.com

#racialsobriety #theblacksteps #recovery #sobriety #racism #whitesupremacy #blackempowerment #blackgirlmagic  #racialintimacy  #thetwelvesteps #narcissism

TBS11: Recovery Step 2: Being Restored To Sanity By A Loving Higher Parent.

 

Greetings Family,

I hope the day finds you well. This week, I am sharing my experience hope and tools in recovery step 2. Details include:

  • Introducing recovery step 3.
  • The challenge of trust.
  • Waking up.
  • How and where does your Higher Power shows up?
  • Letting go of a judgmental God.
  • Racial insanity.
  • Are you playing God in other peoples lives?
  • What is being restored to sanity.
  • Open mindedness and clarity.
  • The what, the why and the how of moving forward?

Enjoy x

Click here to listen to this weeks session.

If you have any feedback, comments or questions ask me here.

If you would like to work with me you can find out more here.

Links, books and authors mentioned in this episode:

Recovery Step 1

You can find lots of literature about racial wellness, addiction, and the 12 step recovery process in the link below in the recovery/addiction category:

http://www.yardofgreatnessstore.com

TBS10: 3 Ways To Practice Revolutionary Self Compassion.

Greetings Family,

In this episode, I share 3 empowering ways to practice revolutionary self compassion. Details discussed are as follows:

  • What is self compassion?
  • Why does it matter? 
  • Why is it hard for us to practice self compassion? 
  • How racism, (white supremacy) feeds our self abandonment. 
  • Racist projection 
  • Amos Wilson defines projection
  • The 3 tools for practicing self compassion 

1/ Under scheduling 

2/ Slowing down 

3/ Showing up 

  •  Vocal self soothing 
  • The power of touch 

My story of self compassion and black men. 

The benefits of practicing self compassion .

Affirmations. 

Enjoy x

Click here to listen to this weeks session.

If you have any feedback, comments or questions ask me here.

If you would like to work with me you can find out more here.

Links, books and authors mentioned in this episode:

Amos Wilson Books

 

Audre Lorde

You can find lots of literature from black scholars, racial wellness, addiction, and the 12 step recovery process in the link below in the recovery/addiction category:

http://www.yardofgreatnessstore.com

#racialsobriety #theblacksteps #recovery #sobriety #racism #blackmen #selfcompassion #white supremacy #blackpeopleinrecovery

TBS08: Racism and 12 Step Recovery For Beginners

Racism, 101
Greetings Mindful Yardie’s,
I hope the day finds you well. If you’ve been curious about me always chatting about recovery and want to know more, this show is for you. In this episode, I share how working the 12 step recovery process can be used to understand who we are and manage our racial pain. #knowthyself
I also share some compassionate tools along with my experience, strength and hope to get you started on the road to wholeness. Topics discussed include:
– The definition of racism.
– The psychology of racism
– Self compassion and surrender
– The History of 12 Step Recovery
– 3 types of recovery fellowships
– A holistic overview
– Black people in early AA
– Why the recovery process works.
– The power of sponsorship and meetings.
– 3 recovery slogans to get started
Click below to listen.
Enjoy x
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Authors and Links mentioned in this Episode
The 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous read in this episode are from the AA Big book.

Literature for all core 12 step fellowships can be found at: www.yardofgreatnessstore.com

Confused By Racial Terminology?

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I don’t know about y’all, but I’m confused most of the time by all the racial terminology flying around. However, what I do understand is that this confusion is also an important part of how the system of racism maintains its power.  If we can’t define it for ourselves, we become vulnerable to it being defined for us to our detriment.

To get clear, i’ve created this quirky little glossary to share my thoughts and explorations of words, feelings and terms associated with racism and our empowerment. This will help us gain a deeper understanding of the behaviours of those who practice it, as well as our maladaptive responses to being victims of it. I will also be using this space to drop the blackalicious, dopeness of melanoid magnificence! We need some balance up in here right?

Keep an eye on the blog under the glossary category, as i’ll occasionally be taking some of the terms to explore them in much more detail. I’ll keep adding to this list as I create more content. Let’s begin!

Assimilation.
Under the system of racism, all non-white people are required to adopt and accept the social and psychological characteristics of white supremacy as a priority.

Black excellence.
A black s/hero committed to living in their RA state of brilliance, greatness and genius, despite living under the system of racism (white supremacy.)

Black empowerment
The practice of counter racist behaviours which reclaim our right to live, love, work, build and enjoy our culture and awesomeness in peace on this planet.

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Boltphoria.
An intense emotional state of ecstasy around witnessing the black brilliance of the fastest man on earth. Mr Usain Bolt. The world record holder for crushing both the 100 and 200 meter Olympic sprint. Boltastic!

Black Girl Magic.
Black girl magic is a term we used to celebrate the global awesomeness of melanoid shine and sistahood. We gave birth to human civilization and rock the planet in our strength, beauty, and creativity. We rise and slay in all shades despite having to deal with racism and sexism. We rock and don’t you forget it! See also melanoid magnificence.

Black self love.
When we like ourselves we can put on a nice dress, braid our happy naps and maybe slide on a little lip gloss. But when we truly love ourselves, we nurture our souls attire. After bathing in the  truth, we adorn the spirit of compassion and step into the outside world with a dignified swag of regal self- respect.

Codependency
Codependency is an unhealthy, compulsive form of self abandonment and reliance on another person. These people lose touch with their own needs and feelings, and become completely isolated from themselves. See also racial codependency.

Coon
A coon is a pejorative term which originally referred to black people whose sole purpose was to entertain white people. Today, I see black people practising ‘coonery’ as a maladaptive, fear based behaviour where they believe that playing out these racist stereotypes will protect them from being rejected inside the white supremacy structure. Black people are often unconsciously rewarded for enabling racism (white supremacy) in this manner, and punished and/or abandoned when we do not.

Counter – Racism
Counter racism is the practice of empowering behaviours which produce justice and challenge the system of racism (white supremacy.)

Cultural Appropriation
Cultural Appropriation is when our culture is stolen by white supremacy and used without any acknowledgement, or respect for its origin. An example of this is when Kim Kardashian’s hair was pictured in cornrows, but was acknowledged in the media as a new trend called ‘boxer braids.’

Discrimination
Discrimination is the unequal treatment of various social categories based on race, gender, class, sexual orientation, physical ability, religion etc..

Emotional abuse.
This is the neglect and mistreatment of another person or community. Emotional abuse can involve the fear or threat of being harmed, being physically harmed, isolated and/or actively ignoring our personal, cultural and/or social needs.

Emotional intelligence
Emotional intelligence is our ability to manage our emotions, and make measured, empathetic choices in our relational interactions as a consequence.

Emotional Sobriety
Emotional sobriety is the ability to fully feel our feelings and accept this vulnerability as an important part of our humanity. See also racial sobriety.

Enmeshment.
Enmeshment occurs as a result of having weak personal boundaries. The sense of self then becomes defined by the relationship to another person or structure instead of being rooted in the interpersonal exchange of your own needs and values. This over concern for others destroys the healthy development of self identity.

Internalised racism
As we remain unconscious victims of racism (white supremacy), we will continue to absorb and accept the beliefs, ideologies and behaviours which maintain its structure. This dynamic also ensures that we continue to infect our communities and our children intergenerationally.

Intergenerational trauma.
Intergenerational trauma is the transmission of unresolved physical, spiritual, psychological  and emotional pain. It’s a legacy of maladaptive dysfunctional pathologies and behaviours recycled inside our families.  

Implicit bias.
Is the practice of unconscious racist behaviour which is generally expressed as an automatic reaction. The system of white supremacy has aggressively ingrained itself in the fabric of our society so deeply, that the majority of white people practice it unconsciously, and non white people accept and enable it through their lack of understanding of it at a psychological level.

Justice.
As defined by our brotha Neely Fuller Jr. producing justice means, ‘to guarantee that no person is mistreated and that those who need the most help, get the most constructive help.’

Melanoid Magnificence
Melanoid Magnificence is a term I use to celebrate the deliciousness of our existence on this planet. From our being the first people on earth, to our  fighting and rising despite our challenges. We honor all things African, our culture, our creativity, our features our curves and the wonder of our spiritual connection to the universe.  

Mindfulness
To look inward and feel without judgment. To consciously pay attention to each moment in the now, in on order to increase our self awareness, self reflection and incite. We cannot improve our black experience if we are detached to our presence.

Prejudice.
Prejudice is a negative judgement or attitude towards an individual or social group.

Projection
Projection is a term used in therapy to explain an unconscious defence mechanism where a person can’t hold the negative feelings they have about themselves, so dumps them onto another person. Instead of admitting and owning their own thoughts and actions, they claim that the other person is behaving in the dysfunctional way that they themselves have been behaving. An example of this is when white supremacist talk about black people being violent, when it is they that have created destruction all over this planet  through violence.

Racial Codependency
An unhealthy, compulsive reliance on those who practice or enable the system of white supremacy. See also ‘coon.’

Racial Intimacy.
Racial intimacy is our ability to be fully present inside our identity. We honour and nurture a healthy, loving relationship with our blackness without apology.

Racial Insanity.
Racial insanity is when black people believe that they can avoid being a victim of racism (white supremacy) if they keep abandoning themselves.

Racial Sobriety
Is our ability to reclaim our identity to love, honour and respect ourselves as equal members of the global human family. Sobriety is maintained through our commitment to the emotional, spiritual and intellectual journey of self knowledge whilst practicing new counter racist behaviours. See also counter racism.

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Reverse Racism
Reverse racism is the pathetic attempt by white supremacy to play the victim inside a system they created and continue to maintain with impunity.

White Fragility
White fragility is a triggered  emotional state where white people are unable to tolerate any level of racial stress. The goal of white supremacy is to restore and maintain the ‘comfortable’ white status quo which is achieved through defensive behaviours. These include silence, shaming, anger, fear, guilt and leaving the situation. So next time you see the ‘all lives matter’ white tears, you’ll understand the fragility that lies beneath it.

White Supremacy
White supremacy is a narcissistic, global white power system of exploitation and oppression over non-white people in response to their fear of white genetic annihilation. The system operates in all areas of people activity, education, economics, entertainment, labour, law, politics, religion, sex and war. There are no other functioning systems which have the power to impact the lives of any other racial group in the same manner, therefore, the only true functioning racist system, is that of white supremacy and should therefore be referred to as such.

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Emotional wealth is my birthright. – Yard Reflections 01

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The true meaning of wealth has been lost under the guise of cash hustle, generational assets and shiny, big ticket trinkets. In our aggressive pursuit of wealth, we can get stuck in the fantasy that having more, means that we are more.

Emotional wealth on the other hand, is a deeper level of understanding and ownership of our emotions. When we’re emotionally wealthy, our life has meaning. We can love fiercely and grieve deeply. We stand in our truth, even if it sometimes means standing alone. We nurture our sense of worthiness and receive abundance in all its forms.

As a consequence of our abusive racial history, many of us did not inherit healthy tools for nurturing our emotional wealth. Instead, we were passed down dysfunctional legacies of shame, disconnection and anger. We were robbed of our ability to be happy in the enmeshed expectations and demands of others.

We all deserve the right to thrive in an environment which mirrors our commitment to abundant personal growth.  In our culture of denial and avoidance, many of us are afraid to feel our feelings, but sharing in a safe space can help us understand our pain, and open the door to relief, wisdom and clarity. When our inner circle is emotionally broke, we can give ourselves permission to detach with love and move forward with those committed to change.

Emotional wealth is the root where all riches are seeded. To be happy, we must protect and nurture it like a savings account. Regularly deposit positive emotions and cultural experiences to build racial esteem. Be mindful of any people, systems or things trying to make unauthorised withdrawals. We cannot control the behavior of those trying to get access, but we have full control over how we respond and take care of our account.

Fearless ownership of our emotions means that our happiness becomes a magnet for abundant financial wealth in its purest form. When we commit to taking better care of ourselves, we also create a legacy of racial serenity, strength and empowerment within our family and the community.

Today, I claim my right to happiness, just as I am. In this moment, I own my feelings and choose some loving actions to nurture my well being.

And so it is.

Till next time

June. aka Mindful Yardie

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